This summer, my friend left for the States to spend 3 months with her real boyfriend. Her 'local boyfriend' in the UK and I became very close. He knows about the other guy and was devastated by her treatment as she basically did not call him for 3 months, told him to back off etc. By the end of the summer, I fell in love with him and tension grew until finally he made the first move and I slept with him a week before my friendn returned. He told me that what happened was not a one night stand, that it meant a lot to him, that he cares about me and everything about us being together was 'perfect' but still had to see her.when she got back, she changed her mind and decided she did want to be 'together' with him and he with her. He told her what happened. She was so mad& never spoke to me again. They're now together& he's not speaking to me also. I'm devastated that he'd go back to her after being treated so badly. I can't bear the fact that they're together. What to do!??!
2006-11-10 06:46:04 · 15 answers · asked by lost_travellers_bar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He likes to be walked over and used as a doormat.-you were to good for him-they deserve each other-you are better setting your sights on someone who you can share a mutual respect with. Obviously he doesn't respect himself or he wouldn't have gone back to her after being with you. Eventually she will do it to him again and if he comes seeking you out-ignore him and then he will probably start to want you. But I wouldn't suggest giving in-you would be wasting your time. Best wishes!
2006-11-10 06:52:54 · answer #1 · answered by laura_lovely_sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
“in love” : A temporary state of love. Can last up to 1 ½ years, but usually shorter. It is based on thirst of love, a constant need to be satisfied, but never is. Someone “in love” can never get enough and wants to be near the one they are in love with 24/7. It is a clouded state of mind.
As they say, “love is blind” the person “in love” will make decisions to please the one they are in love with even if it hurts them. At the time they do not even realize they are doing so. Only after the “in love” period is gone do they see what they have done. They do this due to the fear of losing the person and fearing losing the feelings they get while being with this person.
So now You start taking care of you......First some finding yourself..then idenfying your CORE needs and then choosing some good choices for YOU... You can't change the past...only create a new future...
2006-11-10 14:53:06 · answer #2 · answered by Life Coach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on! You should know the rules when it comes to friends boy friends and ex boy friends, you just don't go there. Sadly this has come full circle and bit you in the azz. Move on and try to find a guy that is single so you don't have to deal with this type of drama again.
2006-11-10 14:53:08 · answer #3 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not a nun are you,is the guy a lap dog,if you cant do what you want with out it upsetting the girl with 2 part time guys on the go your all in for a very sad life
2006-11-10 15:14:24 · answer #4 · answered by barnowl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You move on! It's never a good idea to sleep with a friend's boyfriend; consider this as a lesson learned, because now you've lost both of them!
2006-11-10 14:52:16 · answer #5 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. It seems that your (ex) friend's boyfriend was happy accepting he was the 'other' boyfriend in your friend's life and was waiting to see if she would choose him over the one Stateside I don't doubt he was fond of you in her absence, but he obviously used you. He had a choice to say to your (ex) friend on her return that he had found someone new,but he was obviously still smitten with her. Of course your friend is upset about your tryst with her boyfriend - but then she should be equally annoyed with him. Sounds like they deserve each other and you deserve someone better. Good luck.
2006-11-10 14:55:41 · answer #6 · answered by hodcarrier2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you can do. You sort of put yourself in a bad situation with this boy and your friend and ended up getting hurt and used. You can't do anything but move on with your life.
2006-11-10 14:50:56 · answer #7 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a shockingly sad tale, I'm really sorry to hear that.
Truth is you have to suck it up and move on I'm afraid, he obviously doesn't have the courage of his convictions and she's a spoiled brat.You're better off without them.
2006-11-10 18:08:56 · answer #8 · answered by Darth Emiras 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the end of the day if u call yourself a friend then he should be off limits, no matter what the circumstances, men come and go good frienships do not
2006-11-10 15:56:13 · answer #9 · answered by trouble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...uf i hate those kind of guys...they can take a lot of pain but they are just acting like their are hurt so that thex can get you into bed...sorry toi tell you...but i think he was liyng to you...
you have to forget themn both and make some new friends and try to find you a bf...
p.s.if you like the answer please give me 10 points...
2006-11-10 14:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by Cutie... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋