well id been dating this guy my boyfriend for awhile and it was well good until lately, i kinda wanted him to know i wanted more from him and him to put me first, or move closer to me cuz we were doing a bit of long distance(well not really an hour and a half). i really liked him i just sensed things werent goin right so i kinda had a fight with him...next thing i know i called him a couple days later to try to make things better and he says hes made up his mind and is movin up north for work( i live in canada) i dont know how i should take this hes always been so upfront about things, and now he just wont take my calls its just not like him. i dont know how to read it???or if i should think theres a chance>?? i just dont think i deserve this for him to ignore me so much. ???i figure when he goes up north that hell be lonely cuz thers no girls up there,???i said that i love him and hes like me too so i donno>he said we were gonna hangout before he left we would hang out but no word?
2006-11-10 06:42:22 · 11 answers · asked by krista22here 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he will be back around here on his weeksoff too..
2006-11-10 06:50:28 · update #1
I'm about to say something that's going to hurt you very much. I'm sorry but there is no way around this.
The fact is guys don't like to fight. The fight that happens between boyfriend and girlfriend usually will only encourage the guy to leave the girl he was fighting with. However, if the guy loves the girl so much, he will not leave, instead he encourage the girl to stop fighting him cause he is on her side.
What happens to you is a lost cause. You and your boyfriend fight and this has discourage him and make him want to move away from you. Your effort of making it up to him was reciprocate by him saying that he has made up his mind to move away. This indicate a lost cause to your relationship.
I know its hard to just let go of the feelings. I know that it is so difficult to understand what happens. I know that your heart mean to make it up and make things right again. But you cannot hold on to something thats not here anymore. Love is not here anymore, no matter how much you wish it to be.
Cry if you will, but take this as an experience for you. It will hurt very much, I am sure it will. But its not going to hurt for ever after. Tell yourself this "Broken heart has visit me but it will not stay ever after".
There are many men out there who will suit you better. We usually will meet a lot of wrong ones before we finally meet the right one. Why is that? Because when you finally have the right one in your arms, you will know exactly what to do and what not to do. Then again, if you make a mistake, the right one for you will upset at first but leave you he will not. Why? Because the right guy for you will not feel complete without your love.
Now, you are single and care free. The world of dating is still out there. You won't miss a thing just because your heart has been broken.
Face this life with one assurance that there is the right man for you out there. You and him will finally meet and be very happy. Once that happen, you will not remember of your broken hearts, because your happiness is all that you can see. But first, you must learn to let go.
Good luck!
P.S. The fact that he lives far away from you is actually a benefit cause out of sight, out of mind. My last advice is to deal with your feelings and then mail him a message to wish him luck and thank him for everything.
2006-11-10 07:19:16 · answer #1 · answered by camellia_ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what it's like to be ignored, not pleasant. by the sounds of it I'd say he got spooked by the thought of you wanting more, maybe he just wasn't ready to commit just yet. Try talking to him if he won't reply to messages or calls then go to his house (If he's not gone already) if he has gone then you have your answer, sorry Hun but you'll have to do what I need to do right now and get your life back. Good luck I wish you well
2006-11-10 06:51:02 · answer #2 · answered by sweeteyes_72 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think it's over. He's moving and is going after a different life. He was upfront: he said he made up his mind and is moving. Don't expect much more from him. It's done.
2006-11-10 06:48:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be best all round,give him some space you too,you may find that happiness is just around the next corner for you both,stay lucky
2006-11-10 06:51:13 · answer #4 · answered by barnowl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What has happened here is your boyfriend has meet someone else. I really find it hard to believe that he moved since he won't answer your calls.
2006-11-10 06:58:58 · answer #5 · answered by dandls_99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 14:48:35 · answer #6 · answered by mcsweeney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big hug - wish I know the right words to say
2006-11-10 06:58:39 · answer #7 · answered by gary 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SWEETIE,
LET HIM GO DONT KEEP TRYING TO HOLD ON IF OBVIOUSLY HE HAS HIS MIND SET ON MOVING. WHY KEEP AFTER HIM BEGGING WHEN HES NOT SHOWING YOU ANY INTREST.... YOUR GONNA DRIVE YOURSELF CRAZY.... TRY TO NOT CALL HIM OR CONTACT HIM IN ANY WAY AND JUST SEE IF HE WOULD CALL OR TRY TO CONTACT YOU IF NOT THEN U KNOW THAT HES NOT WANTING TO BE BOTHERED....
GOOD LUCK
2006-11-10 06:47:41 · answer #8 · answered by SHORTY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone else.. it sounds as if he's moving on
2006-11-10 07:23:29 · answer #9 · answered by :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think so
2006-11-10 06:43:58 · answer #10 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋