...I did a horrible thing and fibbed, telling him I did. But I don't really. How can I tell him? I know it's gonna hurt him, but any suggestions on what will hurt the least? ie. what to say?
(and please don't tell me i've got to tell him, i KNOW i do, I just need to know the best way)
2006-11-10 06:36:39 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him that he needs and deserves someone more mature. He'll agree in time.
2006-11-10 06:43:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"X.....We need to talk. We've been friends for a while now....and we took our friendship to a different level. We got caught up in the moment...but now that ive had time to think about things...i think it may have been a mistake for us to cross that line. You asked me if i really liked you...and i said yes. I do really care about you...just not in that way. I dont want to lose you as a friend. The last thing i want to do is hurt you...or ruin our friendship..which is why it has taken me so long to tell you this. I hope that you understand, i value your friendship..which is why i felt i needed to be honest with you." good luck..i hope things work out for ya!! :)
2006-11-10 06:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so let's recap...
You were "with a guy physically" that you don't really like...
You "fibbed" (read lied) to him about liking him...
And now you want us to help you find the best way out of it?
Honey, you've got bigger problems than lying and and sleeping around.
2006-11-10 06:40:53 · answer #3 · answered by Spud55 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having already said you liked him, don't go back on it now. Instead, tell him you DO like him, but that you are simply not at a point where you want a real, monogomous relationship and that you do not want to lose him as a friend either. Tell him that if he is willing to be just a friend, you would REALLY want that, but anything else is just not on the table at this point.
2006-11-10 06:40:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit him down and just tell him that you need to have a serious conversation with him. tell him that you enjoy the time that you spend with him and that you are grateful that you two are friends, let him know that you want you guys to remain friends but that that is it- nothing more and nothing less, all that you can do is tell him honestly and I'm sure that he will appreciate your honesty because the longer you go on lying, the more his feelings will be hurt when he finds out..... good luck and if you need more advice, contact me at ninita@aol.com.
2006-11-10 06:45:23 · answer #5 · answered by ke ke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you've been thinking about things....and as much as you like him....you feel at this time in your life it would be best if you could just remain friends...at least for now......and that you hope he understands because his frinedship really means so much to you.....and although you can't be sexual again right now..that doesnt mean that it wont ever happen...but your just not ready for that kind of committment.....you got caught up in the moment and wasn't thinking clearly.....
Good Luck !!!!!
2006-11-10 06:40:38 · answer #6 · answered by lisa46151 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as quickly as a guy or woman starts leaving marks on your physique this is not exciting and video games anymore he's crossing the line between abuse .. he isn't respecting you as a woman and is treating you like only yet another guy could do to coach off .. I had this issue and if grew to become into exciting till I felt he grew to become into only attempting to harm me then I provide up it and mentioned not greater , to a element i grew to become into indignant at him . My propose is make it clean that your carried out with the wrestling this is not exciting anymore .. he will brake something like your telephone and snigger because of the fact he has no appreciate for you ..
2016-10-21 14:48:30 · answer #7 · answered by mcsweeney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you get 'physical' with a guy you didn't like? You need to explain to him that you made a bad judgement call and should have never taken the 'friendship' to the next level, and that you must be honest and tell him that's all it was....a mistake!
2006-11-10 06:39:01 · answer #8 · answered by ladyw900ldriver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you sound too young to be with a guy "physically" second there is no easy way to tell someone that. Just tell him you want to be friends
2006-11-10 06:38:31 · answer #9 · answered by Billys girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is really no best way. But I would suggest for you to take him out somewhere where you two can be alone (and you can be safe) and softly break it to him. Tell him you appologize for misleading him but you just don't feel the same he does.
2006-11-10 06:41:42 · answer #10 · answered by Yay for Summer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he might have misunderstood you and that you meant you like him as a friend but you cannot see yourself being with him in a relationship. Yeah he will hurt but he will get over it soon.
2006-11-10 06:38:53 · answer #11 · answered by unglory2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋