My boyfriend and i have been together for over 2 years now, and recently about the last 6 months, he has been really emotionally and mentally abusive towards me. He is never satisfied, even when i am agreeing with him. Just the other day, he had said something that i resented(about my family) and well, 6months of pent up rage came out of me and i clobbered him right in the head, with my fist. He got me back though, now ive got a broken knee cap, broken finger, and the doctor said i had a mild concussion. I know he is stressed, but i also know there is nothing that i did to cause it. It is struggles with his own family. Am I getting all the abuse, because i am the one here? I am the only source because im weak? Help, please.
2006-11-10 06:36:01 · 10 answers · asked by oliveirasgirl2000 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
First of all you need to know its not you're fault. No matter how stressed someone is, there is no reason to revert towards abuse. I'm a NYS certified counselor in domestic violence. Email me and I can give you some advice before leaving and go over other options with you if you're not comfortable with leaving yet. At this point, I do reccomend confiding in a friend or anyone you feel like you can completely trust and having a "safe place" to go, just incase things get out of hand before you can do anything.
2006-11-10 06:54:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, please, please get out of this relationship. I know it's hard and scary, but it the safe and necessary thing to do. I was in a relationship with an emotionally and mentally abusive guy who was also having problems with his family, and I can assure you it NEVER gets better. He dated a friend of mine after I broke up with him, and he was even worse towards her.
He thinks of you as something that will never leave him. He thinks that he can do this to you because you are weak and a woman. Prove him wrong. Leave him. He is the bad one, not you. You owe him nothing. You can get psychological counseling if you want to afterwards, but there is NO excuse or reason for staying with him now.
I would even file charges against him so he has to pay your medical bills. But, that's me.
2006-11-10 14:40:22 · answer #2 · answered by Esma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Plain and simple you need to leave. There are women's shelters all over the place. I am surprised the hospital didn't ask what caused the injuries and made a report about it. Go stay with family. It may have just started but it won't stop, it's best to walk away.
2006-11-10 14:39:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
with injuries like that, you need to leave him. But he may not be to happy with the decision you made. So what you should do is wait until he's going to be gone for a few hours, Gather up your things, and just leave. Leave a note, a phone message, anything. just get away from him. abuse like that, doesn't change. It may hurt really bad to leave him, but do you want to abuse to go on. He may not change.
2006-11-10 16:14:08 · answer #4 · answered by asprinfree_braindamage_please 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out fast!!! I think the best support group is your family, let them know whats going on, and get a restraining order on his a** he's going to beg, he's going to plead, he's even going to threaten you to get back with him, but stay strong and whatever you do don't take him back! You're very lucky if there's no kids involved because that only makes it harder to leave. Just please get out ASAP, you'll regret it later if you don't, trust me.
2006-11-10 14:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
any man that smacks a women around aint no man
hes a little boy
you need to get out of that so called relationship
before you end up wearing a toe tag
2006-11-10 17:54:28 · answer #6 · answered by BIG JOHN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to almost all of us who agree that you should get out of that relationship now, even if you have to disappear into some other area. You must do this no matter how difficult it seems to you....even here, we all agree: GET OUT
2006-11-10 14:54:40 · answer #7 · answered by SuperCityRob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
www.isurvive.org
it is mostly survivors of childhood abuse, but other types of abues also. it has helped me a lot. some of the people are super sensitive but it helps to just writ your feelings and know htat there are other that have gone thru similar situations and gotten thru it.
i hope it helps an i hope you find the strength to get yourself out of a bad situation
2006-11-10 14:46:14 · answer #8 · answered by Tissa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT NOW.
I have experience with an abusive mate. He tried to
kill me.
If you are able, leave.
May God help you and keep you safe.
2006-11-10 14:47:57 · answer #9 · answered by soxrcat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh my god, girl. call the cops put him away. definately get out!!!!
there is nothing in his life, no matter what that would justify him putting his hands on you , ( or vice versa).
2006-11-10 15:00:19 · answer #10 · answered by Dark Fae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋