we have been together for 2 years and he still talks to her. im his first serious relationship. he told me he will always talk to her. im not a jealous person but i know how she is. my b/f is a really jealous guy. i get the 5th everytime i talk to someone girl or guy. why is it ok for him not for me. and when we do our own thing he always makes a comment like better not find a new b/f. so i know he cares. what do i do? i dont want to start a fight and everytime i bring her name up he gets mad and it turns into a huge fight! he somehow always defends her. how do i avoid the fight. i dont care if they talk but not behind my back. and i told him that! he says he doesnt tell me cuz he doesnt want me to get mad?!?!?!
2006-11-10 06:32:36 · 10 answers · asked by Redneck Woman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is still talking to her because the is still seeing her. This is so obvious. It is good for him, however, not good for you. You are the one allowing this behavior, you are the one who can stop it. You need to walk away from him and his self righteous attitude or stay with him and just deal with it. Good luck and God bless
2006-11-10 06:36:31 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i have the same problem too - we have been going out for a year and 2 months and his ex is pissing me off - he tells me that he talks to her because he does not want to piss her off - But its OK to piss me off? - i tell him it to - he dosent fight back - he just tells me not to worry because i will always be with him - this is both his and my first serious relationship - and you might not think that you are a jealous person, but i am sorry you are - i am just like you - i am jealous too - its a girl thing - you love him and you don't want any girl talking to him - but it happens and you let it go - BUT then you try to talk to a guy (he might just be a friend) but your bf gets pissed - and all you are doing is talking - it happens with me too - my bf one time got so mad that he though the guy into a wall - he didn't hit him or even hurt him - but now that i think about it the guy was asking for it - he was being and asshole to me - it sounds like your boyfriend is just as protective as mine - but then it comes to us we don't do anything about the ex girlfriend - PLEASE if you ever need my help with anything or ever figure out how to fit the bf / ex problem PLEASE tell me - What way i can figure mine out to - my email is adolescent_psycho_chick@yahoo.com - if you find the answer - hang in there girl
2006-11-10 06:54:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Double Standards Me thinks!
Lay Out on the Line for him!
Respect Yourself!
You are worth More than being kept in the dark and treated Second best!
If you are serious about this relationship then accept Nothing More than His Undivided attention and Loyalty!
2006-11-10 06:36:55 · answer #3 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-29 00:19:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The old double standard. Turn about is fair play! I'd speak with him about your true feelings and if he still refuses to end contact with her, you're better off without this guy!! (Unless they have a child together, there should be no reason for continued contact, unless they are contemplating reuniting!)
2006-11-10 06:35:38 · answer #5 · answered by ladyw900ldriver 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like a threesome. Him, her and you. Seems like he's putting his love of her ahead of you and your relationship. She's not really an ex- he's never let her go. He doesn't seem very committed to you and if he insists on sharing his life with another woman, you might want to re-think what you really have-- specially if he refuses to talk about it, manipulates you with guilt, and fights when you try to discuss it.... then hides it from you.
Not good.
2006-11-10 06:37:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since he and she has a jealousy problem I suspect you have reason to be concerned. If you can not find a way to talk to him about this in a calm way I would reconsider the relationship that you are in. Its not about trust on your part.........it is possibly you are trusting to much.
2006-11-10 06:37:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh my god ... this sounds like all the other ones.
He sounds guilty... and defensive.. He is trying to hide something..... When you mention her he freaks out and makes a huge deal out of YOU being concerned...This way he makes YOU feel like the one who is wrong and out of place and then he still gets what he wants..
2006-11-10 06:37:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
why would u want to be in a relationship like this, is more than obvious that you're not happy
2006-11-10 06:36:15 · answer #9 · answered by Gabs 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he soudns liek a jerk- get rid of him before you loose any more time than you've already wasted with him
2006-11-10 06:35:05 · answer #10 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋