I met him on holiday in Sri Lanka
2006-11-10 06:28:54 · 19 answers · asked by Josephine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't blame her,have a bit of sense,if this fellow is Sri Lankan has "marraige of convenience" not crossed your mind? Your daughter is evidently very worried that you are being taken advantage of
2006-11-12 02:12:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
disinherit means she will take you out of her will and not leave you anything when she dies
please try to rephrase you question so that you get the answer you are seeking
this is not a criticism and no disrespect meant pehaps you meant disown you as her mother
just trying to help this is very common- a child being threatened by a new relatioship and allowing a stranger into the family circle
she probably feels her father is being betrayed or she will be left out of your life
speak with her to assure her she will always be a very important part of you life and your relationship with her will never change
try to make her understand that you have met someone you care about and there is room in your life for both him and her.
eventually i am sure if she really loves you she will realize that you deserve to go on with your life and be happy and she will accept that she will always be an important part of your life.
by the way she doesn't have the right to tell you whom you should marry. i hope in time she will accept your new love but you have to do what is best for you
good luck- i hope everything will work out for you
2006-11-10 14:37:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
HOW OLD ARE YOU??? are you the MOTHER or her kid?
WHO MAKES THE DECISIONS? YOU? or HER?
if the answer is her.... then you don't have a life of your own..
first ask her if she wants to support you the rest of your life and hers!
2. ask her if she is happy? and if she cares about any one Else's happiness?
3. ask her what is really wrong with the guy your going to marry?
list the good things and bad things... if its really that bad then don't. marry him... if it isn't
then get married.. its your decision...
4. if she disinherits you what exactly does that mean? will she not talk, come over, what does she do now that would affect you life? if its nothing then don't worry about it. If your not seeing her hearing from her then whats the big thing?
be happy with the person who treats you right, loves you and shows you that your number one...
don't fall for jealous, cruel people who don't have anything better to do with their lives but complain and be hateful and mean
2006-11-10 14:38:53 · answer #3 · answered by marcy_smile 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with Violet Pearl. Take her advice.
How old is your daughter?
When I was younger, I would get mad at my mom for dating other men. I even told my mom I'd move out to live with my friends! It wasn't like I loved my "father", but it was the fact that there would be someone else in her life that she'd be focusing on besides me. I grew up being her first priority next to our family (this included grandparents, uncles, and aunts).
No one she was romantically involved with.
It was selfish of me. I know that. But it's been three years now and I believe that the reason why I didn't accept her (now ex) boyfriend was because he didn't care about me. He never made an effort to become a father figure. Maybe that's why your daughter doesn't like the man you want to marry.
My mom has found someone that we both like. I personally think they're compatible. I know that I will never love him nor will I be completely comfortable with having a step-father, but my mom's getting older and I feel that its best that she has someone to love and care for her when I'm not around. People seek companionship.
Give her time to get to know him.
2006-11-10 14:47:58 · answer #4 · answered by Gwyn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would you want to persuade her? Does she hold all the purse strings? Are you after her money? You have nothing in common except a unusually large chunk of dna. Call her bluff- tell her you're not bothered because you can always make another daughter. She, however, cannot make another mum. (Although I am thinking of offering my services)
2006-11-10 14:46:36 · answer #5 · answered by Tertia 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to talk to her and let her know that she is the most important thing in your life and i hope you know what you are doing before you marry this bloke live with him first before you commit your life to him why is your daughter so against this man is there something ,may be that she isnt telling you for some reason sounds a bit strange to me
2006-11-10 16:10:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Explain to your daughter that she is a top priority in our life, but your happiness is very important too. Try to include her in outings, and maybe they can get to know each other better and only then can she maybe change her mind. Good luck!
2006-11-10 14:33:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can wait 18 months and continue to date him on a weekly basis and if your relationship lasts 18 months of regularly seeing each other, you'll probably have her blessing.
But if you're marrying a holiday fling you've only spent a week with, and are basing your "relationship" on emails and chat, I agree with your daughter. I certainly would not want my mother dragging home strangers and possibly endangering my life.
2006-11-10 14:33:49 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Why is she saying that? Has she got a reason? I think you need to try to talk to each other about what is going on with her and how you having a new man in your life is making her feel.
2006-11-10 14:32:04 · answer #9 · answered by Stephanie C 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Re-Marry. If your daughter respects you and loves you she will understand
2006-11-10 15:16:54 · answer #10 · answered by James Ed 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋