I am 20 years old and I barely get asked out by guys my age! I hang out with some guys in my group and they tell me I'm "beautiful" yet never see me as more than a friend. They always end up going for the girl that is willing to go further than I. I am a Christian and I have decided to wait until marriage, and no I am not a prude, I just feel that is what God wants me to do and I feel that it is a great and special thing to share with my future husband. Anyways, I am in college and I love to hang out and have a good time and I'm always smiling and I try to be friendly to everyone, I just choose not to smoke or drink. My friends do and I'm totally cool with it, whatever floats your boat is what I say. Anyways, recently I found out that several guys I know are interested according to a friend of mine, yet they have yet to tell me so. I always get approached my much older men or stalker-ish types, but never by men my own age.
2006-11-10 06:21:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just feel because I am labeled as the "good-girl" guys are automatically turned off by that. It's either perverts, or stalker-ish types that approach me, such as last week a group of guys followed me out of my workplace saying "hey you fine piece of *** give a guy your number" thinking I have no respect for myself and for some reason they think I'd be flattered? Yet I just ignore them. Something has to be wrong with me for only perverts or old men/stalker-ish types to ask me out! :(
Thanks for any advice..sorry if too long! :)
2006-11-10 06:22:29 · update #1
Why dont you find a group of friends that have the same intrest as you like a singles church group. That way your not around all of the guys that are just looking for something to poke on
2006-11-10 06:26:44 · answer #1 · answered by Chad S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men hit their sexual peak at the age of 19 years old. This is a stated biological fact. Based on that fact, know there is usually only one thing on their minds at this age,and if you are clear at the begining that this is something that you "don't do" it will turn away 3/4 of the guys no matter what.The other factor here is that universal law states that you attract what you are.
Are you really beautiful? or are your friends saying you are just so your feelings aren't hurt. A better question to ask them might be " what can I do to make myself more attractive to the guys I want to go out with?" I bet you will get an earful.
The other side of the coin is that you are exceptionally beautiful and guys are intimidated by you. As a result you tend to attract really overconfident, arrogant, jerks, or stalker types. They all have one common thread FEAR! The jerks are alpha males who got too many women too fast. They have no maturity,but they do have several other girls waiting in line behind you to take your place when you say no! The feel the need to show you how superior they are in order to win your heartYou were probably the first to ever tell them no.
The stalker is just the opposite. He wants to talk to you, but he is way too cautious to approach you. He is also probably not your type. He is not feeling as if he wields much power in the world. This has the potential to be gold. He has no words to tell youwhat he really wants, and when he does it will come out corny.
Understand, men don't understand you either. So become more appraochable if you are the beauty queen. Even better yet become aggressive about the guys that you want.
Good luck!
2006-11-10 07:35:12 · answer #2 · answered by SONG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel.
I'm also waiting till marriage and am not the typical get-drunk & get-high college student.
Guys have always said I'm beautiful too. But it seems to be ME not being able to go out with THEM.
But I think with ME... I look a little younger so I get approached by YOUNGER guys.
Maybe with you, you look a little older than what you are.
And maybe that is why you are being approached by older guys.
Maybe you hang out with the older crowd.
Maybe you dress or act more like an older person.
Those are just some of my guesses.
But don't worry.
Just focus on school and realize that God has a plan for you.
He will give you that someone in His time.
Just have faith in Him. Your guy will come.
You seem like a really great girl.
You will get that really great guy.
You'll never find love if you're looking for it.
Love will come when you least expect it.
Trust me. It happened to me.
He was my friend and was right under my nose the entire time.
2006-11-10 06:28:17 · answer #3 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to find someone of your own religion and age. Your situation is simply one of the drawbacks of being religious. You are not going attract the people you want. Like attracts like, end of story. And in case you didn't get the memo, I would say close to 100% of men would NOT find your personal choices something they could tolerate.
I am sorry your parents made you Christian. If you were born in a different part of the world your religion would be different and maybe you wouldn't have this problem.
Never forget that you always have a choice to believe or disbelieve anything you want.
Either change or go find some christian personal adds thing
2006-11-10 06:36:52 · answer #4 · answered by Handsome Devil 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guys want sex. So if you want to wait till Marriage you are going to have to get a really good guy that is willing to wait with you or get yourself a christian man. That is the only way this is going to work for you. With you being beautiful, a guy will come up to you thinking they will get lucky, once they find out that their best moves are not getting anywhere, those guys with be gone faster than you can say, "Jesus".
2006-11-10 06:26:50 · answer #5 · answered by unglory2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should get more guy friends the more guy friends i get the more guys approach me that's what happens to me. you should get like a really awesome something like new shoes or a new shirt. so people will be like whoa cool shirt or cool shoes! and maybe try to start a conversation if its not a guy then oh well keep trying. YOU GO GIRL!
2016-05-22 03:10:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know who you are and what you want dont let anyone distract you from that. the love of your life will come and it will be the perfect time for it. you are a christian girl then you know that gods timing is perfect
2006-11-10 06:28:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
id say most girls like yourself.. are at least 3x more mature than other girls your age so the older guys are keen on you...
i think thats what its like for a lot of christian girls because they arnt wasting their life...they know what they are after.
2006-11-10 06:26:41 · answer #8 · answered by Taylor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are on the right track, don't give up , your Mr. right is out there and you will find him on the right time , good luck
2006-11-10 06:29:10 · answer #9 · answered by na 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IM 16 AND I HATE GETTING APPROACHED BY GUYS MY AGE SO I GUESS YOU ARE JUST DIFFERENT. BUT I UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FELL THOUGH.
2006-11-10 06:25:04 · answer #10 · answered by shay16lips 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋