I need some ideas. Almost every time my wife has a problem, I have to ask her what happened for about 30 minutes before she will tell me. The problem isn't always big or very personal and most of the time it has nothing to do with me (just a random problem). I will ask her why she is being so quiet and at first she will say "nothing" then "its nothing important". I have told her that just because its not important, that doesn't mean I'm not interested. Is this just a chick thing or is there something I can say to her to get her to talk about it? I am really getting sick of this and last night I told her I don't want to do this with her for the rest of my life.
P.S.
When she is mad or upset with me, she has no problem telling me
2006-11-10 06:04:23 · 5 answers · asked by Jimmy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Maybe she just needs that time to cool down and get her thoughts in order so she can explain to you. Ask once then wait the 30 minutes until she's ready to talk. If you keep asking she'll lose her concentration and get frustrated.
2006-11-10 06:08:51 · answer #1 · answered by honey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes a woman needs to grasp the situation herself before she can talk about it without being angry. When you ask her once and she says nothing say ok. Eventually she will learn to answer you first time you ask. My husband and I went through the same thing and I'm very stubborn! But even I learned!! :)
2006-11-10 14:25:24 · answer #2 · answered by healthykidnow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear god you just described my mother. and sister. and one of my friends husbands. it's not just a chic thing. it's a dramatic attention, i'm in control thing.
i think they do it to prolong the attention they are getting. waiting to make sure your paying attention.
like once my mom says. " oh, i saw adam today".
then stops. and waits for me to say something. like "oh, really? how is he"? instead of just telling me. it is very aggravating. especially when it happens ALL THE TIME!!!! no matter how trivial or important the subject.
i have gotten to the point where i just stand there and stare at her till she tells me the whole story. or just say " oh yeah"?
she asked me once why i was just looking at her and i just told her "your telling me something and i'm just waiting for you to finish". i got a bit of a giggle from the look on her face.
it's not going to change either. it's a character flaw. you either need to learn how to deal with it or move on.
2006-11-10 14:18:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course when the problem is the guy we have no problems letting you know! :-) j/k
there are alot of girls out there that don't tell their boyfriends/husbands their problems for one simple reason... they realized at one time or another that they can only count on themselves, and if they start letting someone help them out and get used to them being around, they will be stuck in a jam all over again if that person up and leaves for any reason at all.
i was like that for soo many years, and my husband put up with it, but when she is more and more comfortable, she will start letting you know, but it is that one main thing... we want to do it ourself just in case we end up alone and doing it all ourself again.
2006-11-10 14:15:25 · answer #4 · answered by innocentkitty214 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im srry but married or not your wife has a rite to her privacy... just because she is upset doesnt mean she has to or needs to talk to you about it... if she tells you when she has a problem with you then that is great she knows how to comunicate with you... maybe she is just not the kind of person to burden you with things she thinks are petty... leave this lay you are just asking for a fight.... i think that it is great that you care and i am sure she know that you do but let this one lay
2006-11-10 15:20:42 · answer #5 · answered by crazyme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋