This girl is so confused. She said she needed some time last week, and I let her. W/in 18 hours, she was texting me like nothing had happened, just small talk stuff. Weird enough. Went along w/ it ok until one night this week I just cracked, sent her a text, just let it all out. Saw her the following night, no talking about it which I was ok with b/c I don't want to drive too hard. She left ambiguously. After much thought yesterday, I tell her I had the feeling she was waiting for something from me (starting to get real weird) and we talked at some length about it. Long story shorter, she sys she wasn't ready to date when we started, that she never has been ready "enough" (HUH?) and that her relationships always end up here (in limbo, I guess). So, how would I suggest that she has an opportunity to end this one differently (or keep it going if she decides to try)? I want her, and at least half of her wants me, but she seems to have convinced herself it's just going to end
2006-11-10 05:53:43 · 9 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
up just like relationships always do. I am really stuck here. All I can do is just leave or keep waiting, right? I wish there was a way to compel her to decide whether she's going to try or not.
2006-11-10 05:54:54 · update #1
Wow, a negative one, isn't she? I think she has a phobia or something...maybe denial??? But she just needs to wake up and realize that relationships do end, but some don't. Maybe if she puts effort into them, they won't end. As for you, stop trying to make things happen. This is obviously not going to go anywhere and if it does, for what, two weeks until she freaks again?? She needs to get her head screwed on straight. You gotta be willing to take chances in relationships.
2006-11-10 06:00:24 · answer #1 · answered by *mxgirl115* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be because she's scared. It may be an issue such as future marriage... do you both have the same faith? Same basic plans for life? That could be a huge issue... maybe she's scared of putting to much into something that might not be worth it for her in the long run.
If you don't think it is the above, then she just might be plain scared of relationships... and if you think she is WORTH it for YOU, and there could be something great here, don't walk away. Be patient, don't be too in her face or it'll get creepy for her and she'll back even farther away. Eventually you two will be able to talk more freely, and who knows.. maybe the issues may start to come out.
I hope everything goes well
2006-11-10 13:59:47 · answer #2 · answered by carlaerickson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has a lot of self doubt, and I don't think there is a cure for that. You need to sit her down and have a heart to heart with her. Explain to her that you want to be her man, tell her exactly how you feel. Let her talk, maybe you two will discover the root cause for her fears.
2006-11-10 13:57:38 · answer #3 · answered by Becca P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just tell her you were going to just let her go until she decides what she wants because you dont wanna stay in the relationship and getting to attached then end up hurt...i wouldnt call her i wouldnt text her unless she text you and then i wouldnt talk about a relationship with her i would just be friendly...girls always want what they cant have!!
2006-11-10 13:59:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That girl has way too much going on in her head for you to have to deal with.
2006-11-10 13:56:27 · answer #5 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's a very confused girl...don't date girls like this..these type of girls never know what they want and they are just ruining lives like yours...so i say...you see should look for someone who is stable and grounded and knows what they want...dump her dude...
2006-11-10 13:57:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't like you enough to try to make this relationship work, don't try to deny that.
2006-11-10 13:56:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if someone likes you they do not just um and ah about it. she is undecided so she cant like you alot. better to move on and find someone who likes you alot rather than... I'm not sure....read tips on dating and relationships to help you more on this site
2006-11-10 13:57:39 · answer #8 · answered by doll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show her this post you wrote.
it explains in detail how you feel.
she needs to make a choice either way. or you do.
good luck.
2006-11-10 13:59:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋