he told me that he will talk to her the rest of his life and that i need to get use to it. but he cant be honest to me when he talks to her, that is what makes me mad. what do i do?
2006-11-10 05:44:17 · 17 answers · asked by Redneck Woman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to tell him that you're completely ok with him talking to his ex (if you are, that is...that's a whole other thing) but stress that if your relationship is going to work out that he needs to be honest about it, because sneaking around is stupid and just looks bad. I mean, why the need to sneak around if it's completely legit, right?
2006-11-10 05:46:47 · answer #1 · answered by hollym101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i think that if he truly loves you but he wants to talk to her ex then i think you have to respect that. Now, if he does this behind you he's looking for something else. Don't allow this behavior under any circumstance. Ask him why he wants to talk to her so much. If he is honest (you must be able to tell if he is) then work with trusting him (but keep an eye open at all times), if he is trying to avoid your question, gets mad at you, and keeps telling you that he'll do it regardless start thinking about a new bf. Remember that even if you have been with him for 2, 3 or X amount of years, this does not mean that you guys are one for each other. It's like building a tower but with an unstable base. got me? You want that tower to be strong in the base so it'll be ready for anything that could happen on the top..
Good luck!
2006-11-10 13:50:22 · answer #2 · answered by k. Osle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe him and his ex are good friends. I don't think you should worry too much unless he's really close to her and always hugs her and stuff. Tell him that you don't like how it makes you feel when he's always talking to her. I don't think you should force him to stop talking to her but you can ask him if he still has feelings for her so that you won't feel like ur in the dark about this. If you ever find out that he's messin' around with her then it's time for u to leave him and find someone better. You don't derseve to be treated like that. You should have most of his attention. I wouldn't mind if my bf talked to his ex or his friends because I want him to feel free to do what he likes to do but I wouldn't want him to cheat on me. That would hurt. So have a talk with him as soon as possible about this ex gurlfriend of his.
2006-11-10 13:48:24 · answer #3 · answered by iluvashtonkutcher676 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I went through that stage with my man - he was actually cheating on me with her. I am not saying that to upset you, just to warn you that things may not be as they appear. If he has to hide that he is talking to her - then it would be my assumption that he feels he is doing something wrong. Don't force him to choose between the two of you - just let him know that you need him to be honest with you. If he can't do that - leave - because you deserve better!
2006-11-10 13:47:37 · answer #4 · answered by lisa_dahme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this an equation or a question? What is the deal with numbers instead of writing? This is not Yahoo Text Questions.
If he is doing anything behind your back you are better off to end it now. Behind the back is not good under any circumstances.
2006-11-10 13:46:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask him why he feels that he can't tell you when he talks to her. Also ask him if there is any feelings of wanting to get together with her. You need to trust him if he says no and if he says yes then you need to cut him go so that he can be with her. There is nothing wrong with him talking as long as there is not lost feelings of love there. You also need to know why it is that he feels he can't tell you.
2006-11-10 13:48:56 · answer #6 · answered by sscott12414 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my man for 3 years and i still talk to two of my ex's and he is okay with that because i am honest with him and he knows that i talk to them and what we talk about... we have a very honest trusting realtionship
2006-11-10 13:47:56 · answer #7 · answered by bree_1384 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you need honesty. Accept that they talk, its really not that big a deal. Be more secure with yourself. Tell him you don't care if he talks to her, but be honest about things. Hopefully he will understand.
2006-11-10 13:46:33 · answer #8 · answered by baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u love him; he does not love you. If u can accept this odd situation then continue with him; but it is obvious that u r (naturally) jealous, therefore, u had better leave him, unless u r certain that he will never talk to his X or any other female.
2006-11-10 13:51:52 · answer #9 · answered by HM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him about how you are feeling. If he is a jerk about it then maybe you should move on. If he really loves you and wants to make things work then he should have no problem agreeing to a compromise.
2006-11-10 13:50:05 · answer #10 · answered by Dalhey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋