2006-11-10 05:40:09 · 10 answers · asked by Babygurl Alex!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
23 and divorced... hmmm... maybe she needs to get her life in order and do some more maturing and growing up and move on
2006-11-10 05:44:08 · answer #1 · answered by bree_1384 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also 23 yrs old and recently divorced and it can be hard to get over the ex, esp if they were your first love and I guess basically your first everything. I had started dating my ex at 16 and we were married at 18. We had a very rocky relationship (mainly bc he was a lying, controlling, cheater, etc...i think u get the point). However, despite how badly he treated me and how painful our marriage was, it is still sometimes hard to get passed it or him for that matter. This is mainly bc he has been such a huge part of my life for so long (which is true for most marriages...) and bc I was so young and haven't really experienced life without him. Having said this though, I think I have made a lot of progress in at least not thinking about it as much and as much as I really hate to say it what your aunt needs is a time to heal her wounds. I know I hated hearing that when I first separated from him bc it seemed that time was all that I had but it is true...In addition to this, I suggest that she try and embrace singlehood again and try doing things or pursuing interests that she might not have had an opportunity to pursue while married. Perhaps a college course, joining the gym or some sort of club that will get her interacting with people, volunteering, or anything that will expand her social network so that she is both occupied with new things and has an opportunity to meet new people (including perhaps guys that are better suited for her). I would also suggest having a good support system of friends and family to be able to vent to. However, it seems that just by your posting this question, she already has people who are there for her and want to see her rise up and get past this. I would also reccommend that perhaps she start writing in a journal too bc it is a great way to once again vent out those lingering emotions and also serves as a place to perhaps turn her pain into a positive light by creating art through poetry ect. I don't know if she has any children with him but either way, she should try to limit contact with him as much as possible. If there are children, keep any discussions to them and leave it at that. I had problems with this area bc although my scumbag ex has a new gf, he tried to make me his booty call and would use times where we were suppose to be discussing my daughter as an opportunity to play games with my head. Another tip that helped to an extent whenever I missed him was to remember exactly what he had put me through that made him my ex. It does help to see in my case too that he hasnt changed and is just doing this to someone else. In either case, she's just gotta remember that it will get easier as time passes and that the more that she does to make herself happy and get her mind off of things will in turn make it easier and quicker for her to forget her ex. Best of luck to you both:)
2006-11-10 07:08:25 · answer #2 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reassure her that it will get better!!! I went through a big break-up around that age , and I was sure that I would never find anyone else. Not even a year later I met the man I am with today - We are completely in love. EVERYTHING happens for a reason!!! Just be there for her.
2006-11-10 05:43:37 · answer #3 · answered by lisa_dahme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her 2 loose herself in interest that make her happy & feel good about herself. Getting over a "love" is difficult, specially when U thought it would end happily ever after.
2006-11-10 05:45:15 · answer #4 · answered by ♥less 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's kind of young to be divorced already. Time heals all wounds. Just be there for her and let her know to take this as a lesson learned
2006-11-10 05:42:42 · answer #5 · answered by queenzhottie78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best way to get over someone is to meet someone 10 times better.
2006-11-10 05:42:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't turn your emotions on and off like a faucet. She may never get completely over him but with time it will get better.
2006-11-10 05:45:26 · answer #7 · answered by stacye5398 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her out for a night on the town. take her to the movies, dinner, and maybe shopping. point out all the hot guys that walk by and ask her what she thinks of them. yall will have fun and yall will be able to make her happy.
2006-11-10 05:43:29 · answer #8 · answered by matthew r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get under a new guy.
2006-11-10 05:42:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same way she did when she was younger. give it time and find someone new.
2006-11-10 05:41:45 · answer #10 · answered by driftinglust 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋