So I've liked my best guy friend for ages now, and we pretty much completely act like we dating (we both even admit it too), and if he ever brings up our relationship, he's seems fine with making us "more," but if I ever bring it up, he usually tries to avoid the topic. So finally, I just asked him out and he said no, but now he's saying that he never answered. Well, I just assumed that we were done, so I was talking about a cute guy that said hi to me and my best guy friend seemed to get a little upset with me and started acting like we were dating again and was very touchy feely with me. What do I do?????
2006-11-10 05:39:28 · 24 answers · asked by Nikolai 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to have a heart to heart talk with him. Ask him how he feels for you and what he wants from you as far as a relationship more than friends is concerned. You need to just be careful and don't tell him you love him, like him alot, etc. because you might end up losing a friend. I would ask him why he got jealous when you were talking to another guy. It is obvious, but you need to hear it from him. Also, I would talk in person, not on the phone. Good luck. Just follow your heart in this situation. Also, get answers from him....don't let him avoid you on it. Don't be mean, but if he starts to act like he doesn't want to talk about it, then don't let him touchy feely with you...
2006-11-10 05:45:19 · answer #1 · answered by freakykittygoddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Touchy feely??? He might just want sex and he doesn't want to commit. That's what i'm thinking and it could be that he's unsure what he wants. He doesn't know if he wants to stay friends or be more becuase you know if you two become bf/gf...things sometimes get complicated and if yall break up things will be different and yall probably won't talk anymore. So just ask him about his behavior when you get a chance to.
2006-11-10 13:42:58 · answer #2 · answered by iluvashtonkutcher676 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he likes you-but is afraid to take that next step. Maybe he fears losing the friendship if a relationship doesn't work out? Sit him down and talk to him about it-thats the only way this will be resolved.
2006-11-10 13:42:15 · answer #3 · answered by blonde_bitch_norris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your old friend,go for him.You know him more even if he isn't the best guy.You can deal with his shortcomings than a pretender.He was avoiding your topic becuz he feared that admitting that he loves you would destroy your friendship.Most often,friends break up because one of them admitted fallen in love with the other.That might be his fear.Comfront him with the topic again,declare your feeling for him and wait for his response.if he doesn't want you,move on with your life.However,some friendships do not survive love relationship.
2006-11-10 13:48:53 · answer #4 · answered by Phy A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a typical male. Doesn't really know what he wants but doesn't want anyone else to have it. If I were you I would concentrate on the "Cute" guy for romance and keep this other one as best mate until he makes his mind up!
2006-11-10 13:43:35 · answer #5 · answered by Cream tea 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
and guys call us weird... lol he is jealous. once a guy (friend or ex) sees us with someone else, or knows we can get someone other than them they have the need to feel like we can't and we NEED them and only them. Just decide, who do you like more? Some cute guy that said hi, or a guy that is your best friend.... even though he can't make up his mind. I always thought friends were more important.
2006-11-10 13:42:20 · answer #6 · answered by innocentkitty214 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date someone else. Find out where his true feelings lie. Make him talk to you and tell you how he feels. If not, then this relationship is not a relationship at all, only friends with benefits.
2006-11-10 13:43:05 · answer #7 · answered by jjcap 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience it is best not to push for a relationship with a close friend. I once gave it a shot and it didn't work out - all it did was make things weird between us and eventually we stopped speaking.
2006-11-10 13:41:42 · answer #8 · answered by lisa_dahme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you feel like it's worth the wait, tell him to make a decision or you're going to move on. Usually, when a guy stalls it's because he's not sure. You want to be with someone who knows that he wants you!
2006-11-10 13:41:36 · answer #9 · answered by relztnad 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, you should tell him he needs to make up his mind. Tell him you're willing to give him one more chance to ask you out on a real date. But if you and he aren't going to advance, then you feel the need to move on. He's being indecisive and needs to 'use it' or 'lose it'.
2006-11-10 13:46:51 · answer #10 · answered by TechnoRat60 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋