i am the kind of gurl who mostly uses the heart in all things than the mind... im easy to fall in love... and thats the worsest character ive got that im tryin to avoid cuz in all people i meet even if they're really intitled to be JUST A FRIEND to me... i still fall for them... what should i do?
2006-11-10 05:32:17 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't date until you are in the 11th grade. I would guess that you're probably in 7th or 8th.
2006-11-10 05:35:25 · answer #1 · answered by relztnad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better 2 b a friend than a lover, friendship lasts longer. Sounds like if Ur doing all the falling in love w/, R they falling 4 U? probably not all the time. Ur just setting Urself up 4 a broken heart. It's ok 2 fall in love w/ people, don't think of them as a "lover", but love them 4 their personality and everything special in them, U'll start 2 C an abundance of true friends.
2006-11-10 13:42:26 · answer #2 · answered by ♥less 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you certainly don't want to go from one extreme to the other, you just want to find some middle ground.
People are going to say that you can't help who you fall in love with but I don't buy it. We all decide for ourselves what love means to us, what the things are that put together make up love. Our definitions of love changes throughout our lives as we change, some things become more important to us, some less, and some things which were never important to us before will now take on an importance. We might be deciding what love is to us on an unconscious level at times, but since we are the ones deciding, then we can always make a conscious decision of it.
I would say that you think about what love is to you. There are different kinds of love as well (true love, puppy love, love for a friend, love for a family member, etc.), so you should try to include these, defining them as you see them and what their aspects are. After you know what you feel makes up each of these loves and how important each of those aspects of its make up is to that love, then you can consciously decide if you want to change how you view that love, and how you want to redefine it for you.
2006-11-10 13:58:52 · answer #3 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately huni this is just gonna have to be one o those lessons that takes time. It seems now that falling in love comes so easy to you, but that's not the real thing and when that comes along, you'll notice the difference straight away, and all those others who you thought meant the world, you won't even notice. Try keep your head above the water and good luck x
2006-11-10 13:37:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being cold hearted..you got to be born to do this
I am the same way about falling to soon or easily...But then i had to look at it like this, if the guy dont give a fcuk about me, why should i be sweating him...its hard to do...But if you dont want your feelings hurt all the time....You will step up...Keep it playa girl! You probably still young too
2006-11-10 13:51:26 · answer #5 · answered by Simple1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get too close and try not to be so open with them. If you do that then you won't fall for them. It might not be that you're falling for them but you might be attracted to them and like the way they act and stuff. Maybe u just like them or something. I don't think it's love...it might be continous infatuation.
2006-11-10 13:36:20 · answer #6 · answered by iluvashtonkutcher676 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want to be that way? don't you mean "how do i become more assertive?" try asserting your feelings and standing by them instead of turning into a bitter person. i also think that you are becoming infatuated with these people because if you loved just one of them truly, you would still love them and do whatever it takes to stay with them,no? I could be wrong but this is just my interpretation of the situation, that is.
2006-11-10 13:34:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind yourself that you don't need men, then channel that realization into your everyday life. If a guy flirts with you, say something like, "You're so far out of my league, you might as well be playing a different game." Keep your vulnerabilities as hidden as possible.
2006-11-10 19:50:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being cold hearted isn't what you are asking for. you are asking to not be so niave. the only way to do that is grow up or be picky. quite falling for everything with 3 legs (or only two if you float that way). being the way you are is the way you catch something you die horribly from.
2006-11-10 13:35:25 · answer #9 · answered by driftinglust 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do some soul-searching and find out why you're looking for love.
Real love is so special and you use your brain as well as your heart.
2006-11-10 13:39:36 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go and read this book called "why men love bitches" i think of the author's name off the top of my head, but i can say it is helpful.
Experience is always the best teacher, once you get tired of putting yourself out there and getting tired of being hurt, you would stop.
And most importantly say NO
2006-11-10 13:41:06 · answer #11 · answered by queenzhottie78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋