I told my close female friend how I felt about her, she said we'd never be together-not what I wanted to hear.We have a very close+intense friendship,spend a lot of time with each other,constant touch,trust,care bout etc She can't imagine me not being in her life/a part of it.
I'm finding this hard to accept as i believed we would get together 1 day. I've not spoken to her for 5 days now(feeling guilty,as she has txt asking why I've gone quiet)I'm not sure what to do?
I seem to be questioning the friendship as the reasons for us not going further was that:we are complete opposites,different views on sex\relationships,I keep winding her up,we give each other headaches,it wouldn't work out,wouldn't feel right for her,its just me-meaning?
Why are we friends then?How cud we have got so close and not go further?
Solutions, ideas?What should I do?
We did contemplate sleeping together(1 night stand)but she said it wouldn't feel right,it'll be wrong-so we r atrracted to each other
2006-11-10 05:15:51 · 10 answers · asked by roadtripman90 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well My best friend in the whole world is male and him and I made out once and you know what...It was wrong sometimes ppl come into your life and you want more from them but you should accept what you have...I don't know what I would have done if I would have lost him over some kisses you know...I just know that we are both happy with the ones we are with and I know my love for him will never change and We accept that...Don't throw away what could be the best relationship of your life cause you want more it really isn't worth it..Your Princess is out there hun I promise..But don't lose your best friend cause you can't control your feelings you will regret it in the long run I promise you that;)
Keep Smiling...Please Call her..don't let her go:)
2006-11-10 05:25:42 · answer #1 · answered by Ally 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she really likes you and trust you only as a friend. that means a lot to Her I am sure --But can you be all that for her the way you feel about her ? If not maybe you should move on so she don't get hurt from you thinking she had all this trust and she does with you --but if that all she wishes to keep ,could you be all that or will you give up on a very good friendship do to wishing for more and her not feeling that way for you right now could change things for the both of you forever. Or you could have the best friend ship in the world.
2006-11-10 05:37:15 · answer #2 · answered by jc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this exact same problem. A very good male friend of mine confessed that he was in love with me. With snogged once when very drunk but I didn't want anything else to happen.
Basically - it's hard to take in but, I just didn't fancy him at all. We were and are such good friends and we have so much in common but the sexual tension/chemistry was never there for me. Luckily he took this well and we are still friends, in fact I would regard him as my best friend and he has supported me through some very tough times.
I met another guy at work a few years ago and the 'sparks' were there for me instantly - we are now married. My male friend was one of my bridesmaids and all three of us get on really well, sometimes alltogether, sometimes just me and my friend.
The sooner you realise that nothing can ever happen between you two then the sooner you will stop hurting and find 'the one'. Please don't throw the friendshup away - things may be strained at first - but in the long run I hope you work things out.
Please don't ignore the girl - she has done nothing wrong, it's not her fault that she doesn't fancy you. She probably feels really hurt that you now as a close friend are ignoring her! Doesn't the friendship you have count for anything?
Please be nice to each other and good luck.
2006-11-10 05:26:51 · answer #3 · answered by Philadelphia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah mate. dont know what`s best really. you could end up loosing her friendship completely, but if it`s making you sad maybe that would not be a bad thing. after not talking to her for 5 days maybe you have already put a chink in your friendship. on the other hand you could sit her down and pour your heart and feelings out. dont hold anything back and see what happens. if it`s a "no go" you will know straight away and perhaps find someone who will love you back like i think you deserve to be. you sound like a bloody nice sensitive guy. i hope you dont get hurt - but like i said - you sound like a diamond geezer. good luck.
2006-11-10 05:25:02 · answer #4 · answered by Spurs17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's right not to want the "one night stand". It would make her feel weird and give you a false sense of hope. It sounds like she is just not interested in you "in that way". You need to take the time you need to deal with that and get over it. Explain to her why you need some time apart, first. Don't just disappear on her. She still cares about you and loves you as a friend, and you owe her as much to explain yourself. You trusted her enough to tell her your feelings for her, trust her enough to give you space to heal, and trust that she knows what she wants and unfortunately it's not you.
2006-11-10 05:27:07 · answer #5 · answered by Kimberly H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing much you can do. It sounds like she only see's you as a good friend. Sometimes sleeping together can ruin a friendship. All you can do is try and get back to being friends again, i'm sure youll find a girlfriend one day.
2006-11-10 05:21:15 · answer #6 · answered by * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,I never thought i would marry who I have.We are complete opposites been wed 34 year.I would stick to your guns leave your friend with luck she may realise she as the same feelings has you have for her.Maybe your friend thinks things will go wrong if it goes beyond friendship.Hand in there & Goodluck,you sound perfect for each other.
2006-11-10 05:23:16 · answer #7 · answered by Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is back to the whole "opposites attract" thing. People who are nothing like eachother often do attract eachother. However if she just wants to be friends then thats probably all she sees you as... her best friend. If you really want a relationship just give it time.
2006-11-10 05:19:41 · answer #8 · answered by darkmage1235 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she playing with your emotions. It's good that you came clean with her about your feelings and now you know how she feels. I think that she should have a bit more compassion towards your feelings. I would give your relationship some space... let the burn fade.
2006-11-10 05:22:21 · answer #9 · answered by *mxgirl115* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had your shot at sex you blew it and now your in the perma freind catagory unless things change and eventually things change you will eventually get in those panties
2006-11-10 05:21:56 · answer #10 · answered by royalpalaceofhell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋