I have always wondered who my father is ?

Question

I ran his name and found out he lives in the next town which is ten minutes from here,I am 24 and i don't think he knows i exist,I don't want to jump into his life just to find out he really is not my father,I don't think it would be fair to him or his family,I have been keeping his number and address for over a year now. Any advice on how to go about this,
Thanks

Just want to thank everyone for the advice.

Answer 1

If you do contact him, do it in person, not over the phone. For something like this, the phone is a little bit too impersonal. I would first do a little more research on him and find out for sure if he is your father. You don't want to approach him if you are unsure. Gather your facts, go to his house and talk to him. Show him how you found out and show him your proof. Ask him if he wants to be a part of your life. If he says yes, then great, if not, then I would just let it go. Hey, maybe he would want to know and if you don't talk to him both of you might lose out on something special. I wish you the best of luck. I hope everything turns out the way you want.

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Answer 2

It would be better if you actually had proof that he is your father. Is there a strong resemblence or something,anything. Why the uncertainty about this. Can your Mom verify this? You could face horrible rejection or have a new beginning. I think that if it were me I would send him a short letter with my picture and a phone number. I would leave the next move up to him. Keep expectations low, this will be very hard on him also. He may have a family now and there is no telling how he or his family will react.

Answer 3

Have you talked to your mom about it? If you can, maybe she can help you out. If you really feel like this is going to give you some closure, then maybe you should go ahead with it, but make sure you don't form any expectations. If you do that, you might get hurt. And keep in mind that there's a big possibility that this man isn't your father. Just remember that whatever you decide to do, only you can define who you are, and it doesn't matter who your father may or may not be. Good luck <3

Answer 4

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Answer 5

well first you need to have a long talk with your mom, and see if there is a possibility that he's not. If she says she's 100 percent sure then you need to go talk to him. Bring a friend for support,and try to talk to him when he's the only one home no wife or kids around, it will only complicate things. Then ask him if he knew your mom,and tell him that she tells you that he's your father.and hope for the best. He may know he's your father,but still wants nothing to do for you. Or he knows he's your father and was hopeing that one day you'd show up. Or he doesn't know you exist. Good Luck

Answer 6

same thing for me...just give him a call and ask him if he remember a woman by the name of..(your moms name). If so ask him if he knows she had a child 24 years ago and it might be his. Ask if he would like to take a DNA everything can be kept quite as to not disrupt his present family. If he is your father after that see if he would like to invite you into his life....good luck

Answer 7

I have a similar situation. My biological father lives about 2 hours from me. I found out all his info with an on line service. I don't know if he knows anything about me or not. I do not know if I want to know him since he walked out on me and my mother when I was a year old. The man I consider my father adopted me when I was 5. One idea on how to contact your father is write him a letter. Address it to him, but don't put your return address on it. Put that in another envelope and mail it to a friend or relative that lives far away from you. For example, I live in Texas so I would mail mine to my friend in Washington state and she would drop his envelope in the mail to him from there. That way the postmark is way off. In the letter, tell him if he wants to contact you he can do it by email. Set up an email account separate from your regular one and give him that address. My husband came up with that idea when I was thinking of contacting my biological father. I don't know anything about him personally so I don't know if I want to invite him into mine or my children's life. Just an idea!

Answer 8

2 years ago my son found his father on the internet. The poor guy didn't know that he had a son for 30 years..It was a shock to him, but now he and my son visit and get along well.
I suggest that you try to find an email address for him.
If you can't find one then write to him saying that you believe that you are his daughter.
Don't call the poor man, he may have a heart attack :-)

Answer 9

I think that if he was there for you when you needed him
no matter if he is not your fater you should call him and just ask him how was your day or how your been i went thru that situation before my father died and i thought this men was my dad but he wasnt i found out when i was 15 but now iam married i call him one in a while or i call him over for any special occasion
I THINK YOU OWN HIM RESPECT UNLESS YOUR WENT TRU SOMETHING BAD

Answer 10

I would contact him by mail first. That way you're taking the first step but he can decide how to proceed, if he even wants to, at his own pace and without you right there adding pressure. Give him all your information and make it clear that you would like to get to know him and have him in your life, but that you are leaving the decision of whether he wants you in his life up to him.