My gf just aborted for the second time without my knowledge, I'm happy that she did, but I'm also bothered that she doesn't feel the need to discuss it with me. My friends think that I'm the luckiest guy alive. Should I just be grateful that she takes care of problems on her own or should I try to get her to tell me before she makes decisions like that? And if you are against abortion please keep your views to yourself, I won't even bother to read your entire response.
2006-11-10 04:57:05 · 19 answers · asked by Craig R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I asked if she wanted to talk about it and her reply was "It's no big deal why would I waste my time talking about a useless clump of cells, get ovet it."
2006-11-10 05:06:26 · update #1
Birth control pills would be easier. You are indeed a lucky man. I just hope neither of you would ever want kids. She has a point, if she sees it that way and you are cool with it, then dont feel guilty.
2006-11-10 05:40:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
first if you and your girlfriend aren't ready to have children start using condoms and/or have your girlfriend get on birth control. The more abortions she has the more she is putting her body at risk. And it will affect her in the long run, especially if she want to eventually have children.
Second of all i believe all major decisions (such as an abortion) requires thoughts of all parties involve. You have a so say whether you agree or disagre. It takes two to create a child so therefore it takes two to make a decision on what is going to happen
2006-11-10 13:10:39 · answer #2 · answered by queenzhottie78 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A featus is NOT a clump of cells and I'm disgusted at what a horrible thing she did and you being stupid enough to take it. This is one of many reasons why you should wait for marriage, does she have any idea how many people would love to have a child? Maybe its not yet 'considered' a child but it's still alive!
How can anyone be grateful to her?! She's a terrible person, and people like her just make the world a bad place. She has no guilt?! How do you feel knowing not once but TWICE she carried your child and killed it so cold-heartly?!
2006-11-10 15:58:19 · answer #3 · answered by Yokihana 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
its an individuals choice to abort a preganacy and im not against it but if you are in the relationship then i think you guys should talk about it atleast instead of her just going through with the abortion..and ur right she is independant and a strong person to handle the issues on her own but you can never forget that you guys are in the relationship together ya know your not thinking for yourself anymore your think for 2 or 3 including the baby...
2006-11-10 13:02:02 · answer #4 · answered by j bone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How hard is to take the pill? Or use a condom? I'm pro choice but I think your girlfriend needs to take better care of herself. She sound pretty lazy in not wanting to use a form of birth control other than abortion. She is also causing herself to form alot of un needed scarring from the abortions. Someday when she wants children, she might not be able to.
2006-11-10 13:01:50 · answer #5 · answered by US Lisa 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hell yes she needs to talk to you about this crap before she does it! You have a right to know and have a say in the process. It concerns you just as much as it does her. And for God's sake start using some kind of birth control. Abortion is not a contraceptive.
2006-11-10 13:03:05 · answer #6 · answered by Dark 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think abortion is a personal choice, but it is so invasive. I think that you should expect her to at least consult you on the subject...but then again, you seem relieved that she isn't going to carry your child; so, why should she talk to you if she already knows how you feel. My advice...get her on the pill or something, man.
2006-11-10 13:02:11 · answer #7 · answered by geehaw 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you ready to be a father? If you weren't the first time...why should she check with you for the second time.
Get some damn prevention for yourselves and quit using abortion as a form of birth control.
2006-11-10 13:40:59 · answer #8 · answered by Carrie 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
ppl like her piss me off! I cant believe she would use abortion as a contraceptive. I agree that in some cases like rape that its ok, but shes doing this for herself. She doesn't care about the baby. Sounds to me like she doesn't care about anyone but herself. She needs to keep her legs closed or get on bc. As for your question, she should have told u. You have a right to know. Id dump her a$$!
2006-11-10 14:04:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like you don't give a **** so why would you want her to tell? r u going to stop her? i didn't think so!! i am against abortion but i believe everyone makes mistakes but to use it as a method of birth control that is just sick!!! use a condom or get your gf on the pill!!
2006-11-10 13:02:22 · answer #10 · answered by notyochic 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋