I have had this qeustion before so please dont delete it but i wanna know does sex really hurt a lot the first time? cuz thats what my friends tell me and im afraid to get close to any guy because im afraid of how bad it will hurt. please help me cuz i am like freaking out about this. does it hurt really bad? and do u bleed?
2006-11-10 04:54:02 · 20 answers · asked by aprildarcie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Babe,
Im a guy, and from what my girl tells me, it hurts more than just your first time. She said its something you never get use to, but its the thrill in the end that matters most. Yes you do bleed, from the first 4 times you actually try it.
You shouldnt do it because everyone else is doing it. Who cares if your friends want be sluts, why do you want to be known as a slut? Wait till after college or at least after you grad. high school. Keep your virginity as long as you can, so You wont regret anything when it does happen. Take it from me its not all fun and games, people get hurt, and used from it. Im not telling you what to do, im just hoping you will listen and wait it out.
-James
2006-11-10 05:01:08 · answer #1 · answered by jameswilliamlong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some women, yes, it does hurt significantly. Others, not at all. It depends a lot on the state of your hymen (a thin membrane at the entrance to your vagina), how aroused you are, if you've been fingered before penetration, how wet you are, and how relaxed you are. Sometimes when the hymen breaks, it bleeds. If you are really afraid of the pain, that means you're not ready. Trust me, when you're ready to have sex, you don't give a care about pain. You're sensitive to it and you know it could happen but you're ready for it and you are looking forward to the experience. Don't worry about it :) You are not obligated to have sex with every guy you get close to.
2006-11-10 05:18:15 · answer #2 · answered by ixi26c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie that depends on the male friend you find to assist you is achieving your pleasure. First of all you should have the total control over the whole intercoarse act. If you loose your attention span and allow this male to penatrate you to soon, it will hurt you, but if anough time is give by him, it should slide in with just a small amount of discomfort then with just the right amount of stoken you will forget the pain and all pleasure is what you will feel.
2006-11-10 05:00:29 · answer #3 · answered by flying bug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It did hurt, but it wasn't excruciating pain. I did bleed but only a little. Everyone I talk to has had a different experience. I wouldn't rush, you will know when your ready and it's the right person. If you wanna get to know somebody go for it! Just remember you don't have to do anything you don't want to ; ) Good Luck Sweetie!
2006-11-10 05:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by lottie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a good question. Only girls can answer this. i once had sex with a girl who had not had sex with a man for a long time and she was a petite woman - she asked me to go slow and softly and not make any sudden moves and she seemed to still feel a little discomfort...she was very generous and gracious about it..
If she had not told me what she was experiencing i would not have known...
whatever you do
talk with your person - put everything on loudspeaker and include them in your world - it is very romantic to do that.....
if the person in not attentive - you mighty need to be a bit more assertive
that is what i see
2006-11-12 02:45:36 · answer #5 · answered by zigzagidiot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is different for everyone it hurts but it is not horrible as long as your hott and ready it wont be that bad just make sure its with the right guy hun you can only give it away once and i would wait honestly i bled the first time for a day but i regretted doing it with the guy i did it with
2006-11-10 11:57:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're afraid, don't even think about doing it until you are more prepared. No need to frustrate yourself. You'll find out someday when you're ready. Sometimes it may hurt sometimes it may not. You bleed if you still have your Hyman, yes.
2006-11-10 05:00:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It didn't hurt me but it also depends on you. I used to hear the same thing but if you are comfortable with the person and you are ready I don't think it will hurt at all.
2006-11-10 04:58:21 · answer #8 · answered by kayleibunny99 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first time does hurt but the wonderful feelings he is giving you outweighs the pain and it turns to pleasure after awhile.
2006-11-10 04:58:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
it can hurt and it can bleed ---- its natural but with a caring partner the pain can be minimised --- by not thinking about it hurting it makes it less painful --- plenty of foreplay helps a lot
2006-11-10 04:58:55 · answer #10 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋