in what order to weddings go in?

Question

i am planning my weddign and i have been to so many and they are all differnet, does anyone no the order on a wedding, like when do we do the unilty candles, and vows and when do they toss the bird seed whenever we leave the church or when we leave the recpition?

Answer 1

For specifics, consult the pastor/minister/priest/etc. You might want to incorporate different elements. This is the typical order, though:

Mothers of the bride walk (or are escorted) to the front of the church, where they light the taper candles, and then they sit down. Sometimes, the mothers are just escorted to their seats and the taper candles are already lit before the ceremony.

Then the bridesmaids processional music starts. The bridesmaids walk down the aisle, followed by the flower girl and ring bearer. Then, your music starts and your father walks you down the aisle.

You all stand up there for a minute while the pastor welcomes everyone. He then asks "Who brings this woman to marry this man", and your father says "Her mother and I do." Your dad then lifts up your veil, gives you a kiss, puts your hand in your groom's hand, and sits down.

The pastor then says some more stuff (exactly what stuff depends on your religion). Do not be surprised for him to ask the objection question and the declaration of intent, which sounds a lot like vows but aren't. You can sprinkle some readings in here if you like.

Then come the vows and the blessing of the rings. After the vows and rings are exchanged, you light the unity candle. When you come back from the candle, the pastor will say some more stuff. Then you kiss, and then he announces you man and wife.

Once you are announced, you walk back down the aisle and everyone follows you. Most people have a receiving line right outside the doors of the chapel (just have you, your groom, and your parents in the line. Really, there is no reason to have everyone).

Guests will filter out of the church, and you will greet them. They will then go outside and wait for you. Keep the line moving, and try not to let the guests wait too long. When the line is done, wait a minute for everyone to get ready, and then you and your groom walk outside. This is when they throw rice, birdseed, bubbles, cheer, whatever. Get in the car or limo, and drive away. The guests will not leave until your car leaves.

If you want to take pictures at the church, have the car drive around for a minute or two to get the guests to leave. Use this time to be lovey dovey with your hubby. Then have the limo come back, and take some pictures. Do not attempt to have these pictures taken while your guests are waiting outside!

Answer 2

The minister or officiant will be able to tell you what order the unity candles and the vows go in as well as anything else that takes place during the ceremony. Each church will have a specific order they choose, which is why you have seen many different styles. As for the bird seed, it's not allowed by most churches because the birds eat it and then explode. For the most part, they also don't allow confetti because it's a mess to clean up. However, you can buy bubbles in a bottle and have people blow them instead of throwing confetti or bird seed. Whichever you choose, it comes at the end of the ceremony when you and your fiance leave the church.

Answer 3

When you talk to the minister he/she should give you the order of the wedding and tell you about lighting the candles, throwing bird seed etc. So it is between you and the min. That is for the wedding. As a rule they do not throw bird seeds any more. At my grandsons wedding, we made a (Cant think of what you call it) but the bridesmaids had the women and men stand across from each otherand join hands and the bride and groom had to walk under our hands.It is different with each wedding. At the reception the first thing you do is some one introduces the bride, groom,the brides parents, the grooms parents,bridemaids,best men, flower girl, ringbearer as they come in to the reception hall. If you have a dj doing the music, he does the introduction. Give him the names.They are introduced in the order that I gave you. Good luck and may you have many years of happiness. God Bless.

Answer 4

Congrats!

This is the basic order of a Protestant ceremony. There are certain aspects to each one of these as well. After #3 there can be special music or a reading and also after #7. The unity candle is lit after #7 or #8.
Might want to get a book to help you. There are many good ones at the library or bookstore.

1. Processional

2. Convocation

3. Invocation

4. Sermon

5. Vows

6. Ring Blessing

7. Ring Exchange

8. Pronouncement

9. Kiss

10. Benediction

11. Introduction

12. Recession

Answer 5

Wow, it is a sticky one! If I had been you , I'd meet along with her and speak approximately it. If you understand they're making plans a huge one for 2009, then inform her that you're particularly hoping to have yours in 2008, however it'll be so much smaller. You do not wish to thieve her thunder or something like that, and also you wish to be equipped to make use of the truth that you are each making plans weddings to get to grasp her larger. If she does not reply good to this, it'll make her appear dangerous, so she's going to almost always act exceptional with it.

Answer 6

Why not consult with a wedding planner. I didn't think churches allowed bird seed to be thrown anymore due to the fact that it is slippery on the pavement and people have fallen then tried to sue the church.

Answer 7

Hire a wedding planner. If you can't do that, then whoever is marrying you should know in what order to do things. You and you fiance should have a say in it also so it will be personal to you. Where I got married, there was a staff member who was in charge of the weddings and she helped me out a lot. Good luck!

Answer 8

The priest will tell you everything.

If you are having the ceremony at the Catering hall, the banquet manager should be able to answer your questions.

If you are doing any thing less traditional hire a wedding planner b/c someone will have to coordinate everything, & you will be too busy.

Answer 9

If you're planning a wedding without a consultant the best thing to do is go to a book store and invest in a "wedding planner" book.

It will be invaluable because you're going to have a bazillion questions.

Congrats.

Answer 10

The church will go over the unity candles and etc. at the rehearsal!
when you get to the reception, Have the time of your life! Congrats to you both.