ok, this is the deal, there is this girl at work, she is older that me by 8 years, so she is 30 and im 22. she used to have a boyfriend back where she is from (we are both from the same country) but according to her, she doent love him anymore, but the people that knows that i like her, tell me that she still likes him. the issue is that lately i have notice that she has been a little "cold" with me, like i did something wrong to her, which i havent, and with everyone else she is all hugs and "nice". so what do i do? does she likes me? or she knows that i like her and she is pushing me away??
2006-11-10 04:41:30 · 24 answers · asked by angelslide88 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok, i have read a lot of answers and i guess, i have to define what i mean by "cold". she cares for me, i know that. she trust me, but at the time to show affection she is "distant". i dont think she knows i like her, because only 4 people know, 3 dont talk to her and the other one would not tell her...see that is what troubles me
2006-11-10 04:52:27 · update #1
She may not be ready for another relationship right now. Be patient, and give her some time. The age difference isn't an issue; you're both consenting adults.
2006-11-10 04:43:52 · answer #1 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 30, and I think it's cute that you like her..But if she is being cold to you and nice to everyone else, she probably found out that you like her, and she does not like you back--sorry to hurt your feelings...I am doing the exact same thing to this man at my job right now. He likes me and I am not interested--so I am not talking to him anymore. I know it hurts his feelings, but I dont want him to think there is a chance...Also I dont want him always asking me out while I'm on the job.
You must also remember that in America, there is a such thing as "sexual harrassment". If you keep asking her out and telling people that you like her, even now that she is being cold to you--she might feel uncomfortable and tell your supervisor. Women dont like un-wanted attention at work--it can be very umcomfortable. You could get in trouble or be fired if she reports you.
If I were you, I would leave her alone. Whenever people start being cold to me, even friends or family, I immediatley ignore them and stop speaking to them. I am a good person worthy of respect, and if a person takes my kindness for granted, then they can go to h**.
You'll find a good woman one day! Leave that snob alone, and let her get hurt by her boyfriend back home if she cant appreciate a good man. Some 30 year old woman somewhere would be happy to have you one day. Good Luck :)
2006-11-10 12:50:41 · answer #2 · answered by Victory 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the age difference is really the issue here. I've had crushes on some older women myself & I'm still friends with them.
The only way to know for certain how she really feels is to speak with her in private. If it turns out that she feels the same way that do about her - Great! Go for it! But if not, then move on. You're still young & there are other fish in the sea.
2006-11-10 12:59:58 · answer #3 · answered by WillyC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably trying to push you away cause she's not into you like that. Shr may have heard that you're interested in her and she doesn't know how to handle the situation. I'd give her some space and work on the friendship. If its meant to be then becoming good friends first will make the relationship better later.
2006-11-10 12:45:07 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to start off, love dosent have an age rule you can fall in love with anyone no matter how old they are. next, i think that she's just getting used to talking to you and getting a little bit comfortable around you she may still be a little skeptic and not that used to being with you and talking to you. just give her some time ant things will work out for the best. go for it and ask her out when the time is right, and when shes ready.
2006-11-10 12:46:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. She probably doesnt want to lead you on. However, you both need to be honest with each other, and not play games.
Someone usually gets hurt when games are played. However, she may feel that the difference in your ages are a factor of her not wanting to get involved.
2006-11-10 12:48:32 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it is time for you to step up to the plate..it is your turn at bat..
meaning..you have to be the one to talk to her..do not rely on others to do what you should be doing..telling her how much you care for her..it is your job so go and do it TODAY..now..do not wait any longer..it is actually very easy to do...once done..then she will know..and so will you..and you two can move on to better stuff...each other..
just do it
walk up to her and say..please listen to me...I really care for you..or I LOVE you..how ever you feel tell her..but you AVE to do it TODAY... make it a point of seeing her today..and tomorrow and the next day and so on........
do not worry..it will all work out
good luck
smile
2006-11-10 15:22:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age deal is not your problem. The fact that she doesn't return your feelings IS your problem.
I suggest that you move on and forget about this one. Don't be rude, don't be cold, just be cordial. If she ever changes her mind and decides she likes you, she'll approach you and say so.
But I wouldn't hold my breath. Sorry.
2006-11-10 12:45:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think women should be with men who are younger because they aren't as mature as others. My friends parents are 15 years apart. If you hook up then you need to make sure they are the right one if not let em' go.
2006-11-10 12:45:32 · answer #9 · answered by Brand.New 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
8 years means nothing though it is more often that the guy would
be 8 yrs. older than the woman..
If she seems cold to you then it appears she does not want you..
Keep working on her or give up and look elsewhere...
2006-11-10 12:44:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋