I dont know.....????

Question

Okay, so my bf will be moving back in soon and I really dont feel like dealing with his mother. Before my bf moved out, me and his mom would always be around each other. I mean, we went to the laundrymat every weekend and i only went to wash my clothes right???

But all she does is rant and rave about how her son is this and that, negative ways those. She never has one good thing to say about anyone becuz she is sad and lonely. Well, i mean she is annoying and puts me in a bad mood. When he moves back in i really dont want this to erupt again.

The thing is, my bf told me that he wants me to stop keeping everything built up inside and let him know what i am thinking all the time. I do that and tell him how i feel about his mother and his family and he gets all upset. Should i just keep my feelings built up like before, or just tell him regardless how he feels about it?

Let me know ppl, i really am confused on what to do...

The thing is that when he finds out i told a friend about our business, he says to tell him if i have a problem and then when i do, he gets mad. I just told him about this and he got mad

Answer 1

I would not be frank about this to him . I would just let him know that you want to see him for himself and not let his mother influence your thoughts. Follow this up with what you do feel about him and how much you care for him. This will keep his cool down. Just let him know that your not interested in hanging with his mother. You in the relationship for you and him now his mother or anyone else for that matter. Just let him know you wanna love him for what he shows you.

Answer 2

I would say to his Mother only after she said something bad against him son "Look your son and I are living together because we love each other and I just don't see he as you do .All these things you say against him I have not seen ."
But I definetly would always,always,always same something positive about Him and uplifting.
.It seems when you don't engage in bad things or talking about someone the other person will finely Say nothing at all or really don't wish to spend time with you as much or will finely find good in that person.
I hope this will help you

Answer 3

so just do not do it

if you have to, say something like this...your the best person and mom I know, but it really isn't healthy for a young girl to hang around with her boyfriends mom....
no offense please..but i do need my space too...
tell her you can every once in a while but not like before.
be SEMI honest with her..be sincere, and nice and talk calmly...
if she blows up..let her..but you stay calm..and let it go at that....

good luck
smile

Answer 4

first of all do not be available when the MIL wants to do something with you...always be unavailable

and second...nope do NOT say anything bad about his mother to him...not a good idea...tell your g/f or someone else but only if u must---try keeping it to yourself

Answer 5

I would tell him, nicely of course, don't just let it errupt. If he wants to know how you feel, then when he starts to get upset, tell him calmly, "you asked me to tell you..."

Just talk about it, and try to reach an agreement.