My current boyfriend is having dinner with his ex-girlfriend tonight. He mention to me she was going to be around the area and she was wondering if they can see each other for dinner. The true is that his ex-girlfriend is getting married but while she was with her fiancee she was screwing my boyfriend as well, before i got with him. I trust him, but i don't trust her at all. I spoke to him about how i felt about the whole situation, which i told him that she should just back off for a while until him and i establish a stronger relationship. I believe if she had no respect for her previous fiancee why will she have respect for our relation. I want to have an open realtionship that we can both be honest with each other, but for some reason i still feel she has a hold on him. Do you think is right for me to feel this way? or I'm I just being paranoid? I know a thing or two about there past just because he was my friend before we got together 3 months ago. please help?
2006-11-10 04:36:35 · 13 answers · asked by Tati 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know your boyfriend but I can make a bit of an assumption about his character if he's willing to have sex with a woman who is about to get married. You're understandably upset about your boyfriend going to dinner with a woman he has a history with and the woman's track record lends her to the slut category but the most important aspect of this situation is your boyfriend accepting an invitation to dinner with her. Why? I personally would not accept an invitation to dinner with an EX of mine unless it included my current girlfriend. Their ex's. Unless they have kids together what's the point of the dinner?
2006-11-10 04:45:55 · answer #1 · answered by Dark 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I'd be worried if I were you. Even if she thinks that it is nothing there has to be some reason or feelings for her to want to have this lunch/dinner with him. I mean if someone really isn't interested then they wouldn't want to go in the first place. There are many old boyfriends that if I saw again I would definitely make up a reason to not go have lunch with but the few that I would say yes to would only be because I really liked them in the past and never maybe completely forgot about. Would you just go have lunch with any old ex? I don't mean that she is intentionally trying to cheat or hurt you but it can definitely lead to a bad thing. Watch out.
2016-05-22 02:58:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what would you tell your best friend if this was her...
Yeah I thought so......
The guy still cares for her... and he always will . She probably has to tell him she loves him ...and see him again before the big day.
I would say walk away. I would walk away... What possible reason does he have ..
TO ASK HER ... are you sure your marring the right guy?? Marry me.
I had a boy friend once that had 2 girls he was hung up on.. wait have you been called her name yet.. that is going to be fun when that happens. this will be the next day after the dinner.
Don't be a fool ...... break it off... too many people have thought they were being ridiculous and there boyfriend /girlfriend was having a sexual relationship. and they were right.
What do they have to say that they all ready haven't..... think about it ...
If you were in his shoes ... what would be your reason... Your not happy... and need something...
leave...
IS she all ways going to be a third wheel every time she comes into town?
.. Will she be back before her wedding? Bet she will be ... Just be careful..
... tell him you might stop by just to say hi... when they are on their date... if there friends .. who cares if your there.. right. ... not that you will..... but do it to see what reaction YOU GET.. ( don't really do that...... but say you are. ) I would really think about this guy,,, your not being difficult... its been done too many times.
2006-11-10 04:55:53 · answer #3 · answered by zachs mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...it's not ok to go to dinner with an ex alone. If it was a group situation with other people going also, it would be better. It'd be best if you were there too. There's no reason for them to have dinner alone if they are exes...you know? If they just want to catch up....then they should write letters. I wouldn't be ok with it and I damn sure wouldn't let my boyfriend go to dinner with an ex....period.
J
2006-11-10 04:44:58 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're being paranoid. I think you're being smart. If you have a problem with it, then he shouldn't be going. Period.
You say you want an open relationship with him. Hon, I think you need to face reality. It just doesn't work like that. There's just some things you just don't do when you're involved with someone. Why does he want to see her anyway when he's got you? Let me guess... they're just good friends now, right? Please!!!! I think you and her fiance' need to smarten up. Find someone who wants you and only you. You deserve it, don't you?
2006-11-10 04:48:20 · answer #5 · answered by November 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my question is...why aren't you invited to dinner as well? given the info that you gave us...your boyfriend should not think twice about inviting you to this dinner if he has nothing to hide. this is my take...esp with the history to this story. If he refuses and/or gives you a hard time if you ask to go, then I would rethink your relationship with this man.
2006-11-10 04:42:07 · answer #6 · answered by tonaloha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is not ok, and by saying you trust him you are opening the door for the fallable male thought process. if they want to have dinner, ask if you and his ex's fiancee can attend. if they say no, something's up
2006-11-10 04:40:16 · answer #7 · answered by resistance fighter1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it really makes you uncomfortable just ask him if you can come along when they have dinner. If he has no alterior motives then bringing you along should be a good thing.
2006-11-10 04:40:24 · answer #8 · answered by Jason S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are just friends and there is going to be no hanky panky then he should have no problem taking you to eat also. If he gets mad, its cause he has something to hide, believe me. I have experience in this area.
2006-11-10 04:58:34 · answer #9 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you're going to, and why is she calling him?How long have they been talking, and why does he want to have dinner with her?You're not paranoid.
2006-11-10 04:51:54 · answer #10 · answered by LucyBoop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋