i have just found out that my partner has been taking into a psyciatric hospital as he hasnt been unwell for 2 months he was staying with his parents for a week and all of a sudden they text me to let me know but the thing is they wont tell me were he is we live together and been together for 3 years so i have rights to know where he is i know why they are being like this i know 1 thing his parents dont like me.
2006-11-10 04:30:20 · 12 answers · asked by baby dust for me 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
my partner is 30 years old just for the record apparently were we live its ilegal to keep info back for things like this.
2006-11-10 04:38:34 · update #1
i have called all the hospitals and is nowhere to be seen he isnt even in the privets ones either.
2006-11-10 04:40:00 · update #2
its just i feel as though i have lost him for good .
2006-11-10 05:27:38 · update #3
Sounds all too normal. Parents not approving, parents trying to take control of their child. It's a sickness. I'm not sure what you can do--depends of the laws of the state. Check on that.
2006-11-10 04:35:08 · answer #1 · answered by SuperCityRob 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The hospital will limit his contact with people at first. Also, after he is evaluated, he will be allowed to call and talk to people, usually after the first 24 hours.
You said he was unwell for 2 months so you should have some idea what is wrong. Why did he move in with his parents? I take it this has been building up...did he feel more comfortable with them?
If he hasn't called you then I think you need to accept the fact that there may be a reason for it. And a reason his parents didn't tell you where he is. Obviously, they want him well and if he was asking for you they'd know it was in his best interest to get you there, right?
Also, the doctor won't judge like parents may. If he he is stable enough for visitors, he would be allowed to call you, if he wishes. If he is not, then you won't be able to see him anyway.
Not sure what state you are in but since you aren't married you may not have any rights in this.
2006-11-10 04:50:17 · answer #2 · answered by honey 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay ,,,, one step at a time .....
Firstly ... I would question if he has actually gone into a psychiatric hospital ....
Secondly, why are his parents being secretive with you? Do they feel you are bad for him in some way? Are they covering for him as perhaps he doesn't want to see you again? You and are partner are both adults and yes, you have a right to know where he is. But it seems that there may be a breakdown in your relationship and you may not be totally aware of that! BE honest with yourself and admit if that could be so .......
Finally, if he is in a psychiatric hospital, you simply need to phone around and find which one.
Frankly, if he has been staying with his parents for a week and all of a sudden he is then in hospital, that simply doesn't ring true! There is more to this than I suspect you know and only time and patience will reveal all. The fact that the news has come in a text suggests they don't want a face to face with you and to be honest, shows a total lack of respect for you. You really deserve better than that ... even if your relationship is on the rocks. Personally? It seems that they are looking after their little boy and you don't really matter! Harsh I know but that may simply be it. I can only suggest you make those phone calls and at least eliminate or prove the hospital theory.
If he really is in a psychiatric hospital ... whY? Did he have a breakdown? Referred by a doctor? Admitted for his own safety? Or did he refer himself. Such admittance is a serious matter and he simply cannot have simply walked in ..... and as his parents are being so secretive, they must blame you in some way for this 'breakdown' perhaps? Think you are a bad influence? Or has he told his parents to act like this ... he cannot face you at this moment in time?
Be honest with yourself and do the necessary investigations .... that is your right ... then draw your own conclusions! Good luck ...
2006-11-10 04:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
honestly
im sure hes ok
maybe theres a chance hes not even in the hospital
maybe they are being wierd!!!!
hey, thats parents jobs!!!!
but maybe you should notify the police
but i think it has to be after 24 hours or something
then its a missing person situation
but dont call 999 [or 911]
just find the number for your local police station and call them!
try not to worry
its realy bad for you
make sure you are eaing all your meals
even if you dont feel hungry
and you HAVE to get some sleep!
im SURE you havent lost hhim forever!!!!
if hes in a hospital hes not going to forget you is he!!!
this is a tricky one!!!!
maybe you shouldnt tell the parentsyou are going to tell the police though
you kind of want them to like you as much as possible
maybe they are worried and are acting wierd because of this?
if i can help you at all in any way, email me
wonderhat@hotmail.com
good luck
it will all work out
ive got my fingers crossed for you
[which makes it VERY hard to type by the way]
go one, smile, you know it was stupidly funny!!!
=]
*luvs*
xxxxxx
2006-11-10 09:25:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the psychiatric admits (90%) are a result from a failed suicide attempt. The patients are guarded 24 - 7 & in a solitary padded room. Plus heavily sediated & sometimes they are kept in restraints for their own safty. After 3-5 days if there is an improvement, they are allowed to make phone calls & have visitors. Be patient with the parents, they are devistated I'm sure. Sorry to say this, but you only have rights if your married.
2006-11-10 04:49:26 · answer #5 · answered by MsDiviness 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can either try talking to his parents again or someone else in the family to see if they will tell you, but if you call the hospitals they can not give any information unless he has signed a consent for them to speak to you. There are so many confidentiality rules and HIPPA rules that it is hard to get any information on someone unless you have their permission. I wish I could help more, maybe if you stay available and call his parents and check on him a couple of times a week they will see that you care and he will know it in the end. Good Luck! And I will keep yall in my prayers!
2006-11-10 04:47:07 · answer #6 · answered by DC 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go to local psyciatric hospitals during their visiting hours and just ask for him by name. If he is there they will tell you, and if he can recieve visitors they will let you see him. That is my guess anyway. I was able to visit my friend in mental hospital. I'm fairly sure I just turned up.
He is where he needs to be, and getting the treatment he needs.
It sucks that his parents are keeping you in the dark. Perhaps you should try to find out why (probably by asking them) before you go, in case there is a real reason, and they don't just think it is your fault (which it isn't, there is something wrong with his brain).
2006-11-10 04:44:55 · answer #7 · answered by helen g 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Has he got a sibling or friend who might know? Maybe his parents would tell an old friend of his that they know and trust. If not, try calling local psychiatric hospitals - they won't give you details as you're not a relative, but if you explain that you know he's been admitted to a hospital and you just want to know that he's safe, they might confirm that much. It's worth a try. Good luck!
2006-11-10 04:37:12 · answer #8 · answered by Melanie D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, if he is underage his parents can admit him. If he is an adult, he must have been pretty bad off and needs you to help him by being supportive in a different way. Let him get the help he needs, if you need help, get it too.
2006-11-10 04:35:47 · answer #9 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi I'm sorry to tell you it is not illegal to not tell you where he is, for one you are not legally his next of kin and 2 it is patient confidentiality he has the right to refuse information to people, maybe he just doesn't want you seeing him like this
2006-11-10 05:15:35 · answer #10 · answered by nursej 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋