Did you done too much too young? Or do you not regret what you done when you were young?

Question

Bad grammar I know.

The Specials 'Did you done too much, much too young'!

Answer 1

I did way too much too young, but I don't regret it because I think it allowed me to get it out of my system young, and then able to focus on real things that matter at the proper age (when I was in college). If I had delayed my wild years until college, then I might have dropped out or done something horrible. As a young teenager though, in high school, things mattered less and you can get away with more without it totally ruining your life... this all depends though, I am just speaking about my particular situation.

I also don't regret those experiences because they brought me to where I am today and I am happy where I am. Those experiences brought me more wisdom and a feeling of satisfaction and completeness. If I hadn't done all the things I did I might always regret not doing enough and wonder what it would have been like to be a bit wild. I get a feeling of panic when I feel that I've missed out on something, much more so than I ever feel panic over doing something dangerous. I am very impulsive and CANNOT walk away regretting I hadn't done something I wanted to do. It would drive me nuts to live that way.

Answer 2

I don't think about my regrets too often. Regret is a wasted emotion and does nothing for you in the here and now. That said...

I wish I had in my twenties the wisdom and confidence I have in my forties. Of course you have to live in order to understand and gain perspective. Among my regrets (which I'm sure are universal):

1. Going out with men / boys who weren't worthy of me
2. Wasting tons of money and not buying real estate sooner or making other sensible investments
3. Not believing in myself more

I'm actually glad that I wasn't a wild child in the sense of doing drugs, getting pregnant early, getting involved in abusive relationships...I didn't make the kind mistakes that you can't undo. Maybe you can undo some, but not always succesfully.

The flip side to all this is that now I GET IT! I am happily married, I've made some smart financial moves, and am in the process of facing a major life challenge that has me both petrified and exhilirated. My life is fuller because I've matured. We all do. And, at 45, I find the world is wide open to me.

When I read some of the questions from the teens and young women I am saddened, angry and hopeful only once in a while.

Answer 3

Yeah, I did a lot of dumb, bad stuff when I was young. And I do regret it. But, I use it to help those who are doing the same things I used to do. I can give them hope, that you can rise above all the bad stuff and do something better with your life. I've helped many teens straighten out their lives. The problem is, some of them think they're special, and nothing bad will happen to them. I wish they all would listen. But, many have to find out on their own that going down that path will lead to big disappointments, or worse. I had to find out the hard way. No one could tell me. And I didn't really care. I wanted what I wanted, and did what I had to do to get it. But, it was never enough. I can look back at it now, and see that it was all a waste of time and energy. It took me several years to get beyond my past. I am no longer that person. So, now I try to help others, if they let me. I try to be the person I wish had been around when I was that age. That's my biggest regret now...that there aren't more adults helping the teens in their own neighborhoods. <*)))><

Answer 4

i think all of us have regretted something at some stage i have and im only 22, but if u dwell on things it can consume ur life but u make choices when ur then and there,then only 2 regret them later on thats what lifes about isnt it? ive regretted many things but when i look back there only small things,but at the time it was the end of the world. the one thing i do regret is the last thing my mom said 2 me was "make sure u get back 2 the hospital 2 c me 2nite" i never got there as i was busy with work, the next day she passed away,god bless her, thats a regret il never get over. if only i skipped work and got to the hospital couldve had more time with her, take care just live life with the here and now

Answer 5

i got settled down and married young and yes i am now 23 and want to do all the things that i should have been doing at 16 and above. but i don't regret getting married coz i have a good life just wish i cud have done it later.
but u can't help when u fall in love

Answer 6

I regret some of the things I did when I was young but I wouldn't be the person I am now without those experiences.

Answer 7

I would not know the things that I know today had I not experienced yesterday... Life is too short to regret things that we cannot change. Our pasts aren't there to haunt us, just to help us grow and learn, nor are they there to hurt us, but to help us grow stronger. Of course, if we knew the things we know now, we may have made one or two decisions differently, but here we are.. and that alone speaks for itself... Besides, life always goes on, so if we choose to carry a regret or two along with us, all we can do is learn to live with it...

Answer 8

Everything I have done in the past, all my experiences, made me who I am today. I like who I am today so I regret nothing.

Answer 9

Im 19 and have 5 yr old twin boys and another 3yr old boy, even though i did it young i dont regret one minute of any of it even though its been hard!

Answer 10

i dont regret anything i did, there was a reason why i did it and dont dwell on it

i am on a different person now, if i had some of the knowledge i did then i may have acted differently but i didnt, so would have been same outcome, just move on