My wife is in a mom's group and one of the other mom's asked for someone to watch their just turned 3 year old on the day of their scheduled c-section. Since no one had responded yet my wife agreed to even though we have a set of 2 year olds. The grandparents dropped her of at 8:00 am because the c-section was scheduled at 10:30. When I got home at 5:00, I was surprised to see her still there and my wife said no one had called. Finally at 5:30 the dad called and was going to go home and shower before he picked up his daughter!
When our twins were born (also a c-section) I was away from my son for only 4 hours and he stayed with my parents.
We felt these people were very strange. Are we right?
2006-11-10 04:23:32 · 19 answers · asked by parkdad73 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
How is this strange? If she's part of the group...maybe she felt that she trusted the other moms in the group including your wife. Your wife should be happy that someone has trust in her. As far as the 10 hours...CSection is a surgery. And the process does take time. If your wife agreed to watch the child, then she should have told them that she couldn't if there were time restraints. Next time your wife needs to fully understand the responsibilities that she is taking on. You are both wrong!
2006-11-10 04:42:17 · answer #1 · answered by mz_elegant_1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. They just needed some help. Maybe both their parents weren't available or live out of town. You never know someone's circumstances or the complications (if any) they had throughout the day. It is a little odd that they didn't call at all during the day, but I would give them the benefit of the doubt. I have 3 kids, and when I had my 2nd and 3rd baby it was tough finding a place for my other kids to go.
2006-11-10 04:40:58 · answer #2 · answered by amyvnsn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
these people didn't have any family or close friends to watch their child instead? with a c-section you can only have one person which is usually your husband in the room i highly doubt this women's whole family was in the waiting room,i wouldn't say they are strange I'd say they took advantage of your wife's kindness and that is wrong,ten hours for a c-section is ridicules and to not even call is even more ridicules and then after your wife having this child all day he has the nerve to call and say he wants to go home and take a shower first that's outrageous!!did they even apologize to your wife for taking so long or even offer to pay her for the time she babysat? I would never do these people a favor again that's for sure!!
2006-11-10 04:44:00 · answer #3 · answered by bellababi44 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe it's not what you would do but they may not have had anyone to watch their kids and the grandparents wanted to be there for the birth of the baby. It was very nice of you guys to do that for them, it may have been hard on your wife but you may have prevented a lot of stress for the parents to have to be in the hospital with little kids ALL day and giving birth at the same time. They owe you a favor though.
2006-11-10 04:41:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not want to leave my child like that but parents are all so different maybe they had nobody else to help and you being there was a true blessing for them I am sure one day the blessing will be returned what seems strange to us may be ok to another try not to judge to harshley that may have been more difficult for them than you even realize and it was a really nice thing for you and your wife to do
2006-11-10 04:33:59 · answer #5 · answered by snaggles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My neighbor watched my 4 year old when I went to have my child. She watched her from 5AM to Noon and we were very grateful. Your wife watched a child for half a day..what is so odd about that? Did you stop to think that the husband wanted to stay with his new baby and wife for a few hours or maybe things took longer then they thought and it could not be helped. You sound awfully selfish.
2006-11-10 05:27:35 · answer #6 · answered by KathyS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, They trusted you with their child while they were very busy doing what they had to do. I'm sure that he wanted to be with her while this was taking place and it was no place for a small child to be. I agree that the grandparents might have been the best ones to do the job but you don't know the circumstances. Hats off to your wife for being there when a friend needed her.
2006-11-10 04:34:05 · answer #7 · answered by kstfas 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont think so, ur wife must be a great person and she seemed friendly to that couple so they assumed she wouldnt mind. but maybe try not to judge them because they were going through a lot, and their parents probably couldnt watch her for whatever reason, and they felt they had noone. they must have been to preocuppied (understandably so). Just be thankful that you have what it takes and you can handle what you got! And feel good that you did something above and beyond for someone else.
2006-11-10 04:31:07 · answer #8 · answered by cshteevrend 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not that odd. His wife had major surgery and maybe they didn't have anybody to care for the older one. Or maybe her parents wanted to be there while she had surgery?
I, on the other hand, wouldn't let anybody watch my kid. I had a c-section too and if I ever have another baby will need another one. I have nobody to care for my 3 yr old.....so- for that very reason I will probably not have another baby.
2006-11-10 05:50:17 · answer #9 · answered by Alison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, but it is good that they had you their to help out. Sometimes child birth is very rough. I would rather hear that someone who was mentally capable of caring for the 3 year old was watching, and not a distracted parent. My hubby left my kids with family, but we left them for three days. They came to visit me in the hospital, but I would not let my hubby leave because I am scared of being alone. I know it is great to have someone there to help. so I have to praise you. I would not be able to say weather it is strange or not, because emotions run high in times like this. but glad you were there.
2006-11-10 04:29:49 · answer #10 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋