does teenage guys really want kids if they say they do?

Question

my man and i was talking on the phone one day last month and he asked me if i wanted to have kids? so i said yes because i want kids by him. so he said that as soon as he gets enough money saved up so we can start saving for the kids he wants to start trying to have some. is he telling the truth? hes going through a hard time at his job just so he can save the money. i think hes telling the truth but i was wanting to know for sure?

Answer 1

WHAT?! Come on, you're practically kids yourselves. Why would a teenage guy start talking about kids unless he thought it was a good way to get in your pants?

Don't you find it a little convenient that he wants what you want? If you told him tomorrow that you've thought about it and you really don't want kids, I'll bet you $100 that he changes his answer too. And that's your guaranteed tip off that he's saying anything he thinks you want to hear to get you into bed.

Answer 2

This is one of the most disturbing questions I read in a while. You guys have no idea how much it costs to raise a child. You can't even support yourself. If you are both only teenagers, what kind of job can you possibly get being that you have no education. Besides, you don't know how long you are going to be with this guy. I'm 31 and I constantly changed my mind about stuff since I was a teen. Wait until you are in your late twenties or early thirties. You will have time to get an education, a decent job and to find out who you are. Remember, once you have kids, they come first. You are always second. If the child needs clothes, that is priority before new clothes for you. Diapers and formula always come before buying make up for yourself. You are young, live life before you worry about all of this stuff.

Answer 3

Girl, that is the oldest line in the book! Every man says "I want you to have my baby" Girl, you are making a BIG MISTAKE...
I have TONS of women in my family who had babies as teenagers, and every one of them eneded up as a Struggling Single Mother.

Your boyfriend is already going through a tough time finacially--imagine how hard things would be if you had a baby. Honey, dont you know that as easy as it is to blink your eyes--that's how easy it is for a man to leave you with a baby..EVERY man swears from here to the moon that he would never leave--but once that baby starts hollering, and diapers need to be changed, and you have to rush to pick your kid up from daycare, and daycare costs $150 a week--Its Easy to Say Goodbye.

The most expensive thing you can do is have a kid.Kids arent called "crumb snatchers" for nothing. Every dime you make will spent on that kid. Clothes, diapers, baby beds, strollers, car seats, food, day care, babysitters--all of that is expensive. Not to mention your own living expenses like car note, rent, food, etc. If your man is barely holding on to his job now--what makes you think he'll have it after you have a baby?

When you are at home, trying to find a babysitter so you can go grocery shopping, your man will be in the arms of his New Girlfriend who Doesn't have kids. He will think being with her is so fun and easy--because he wont have to change diapers, clean poop, hear sceaming and crying, or pick up yor kid from daye care every day..Meanwhile, you'll be trying to find a man who will accept you and your baby.

Girl, give up that silly fantasy. Finish school go to college, get that great career--and become an independant woman. Travel, have fun with your life while you're young, and you'll be sooo much happier...I'm 30 with no kids, and everytime I look ay my cousins struggling to take care of their kids--I thank God that I am Child Free. It feels so good not to come home and have to cook diner, give baths, help with homework, do laundery, clean up--gheesh!

And, have you told your Mom and Dad this? If he Really wants you to have his baby--then he should ask your parents if he can Marry You! Hello! Remember marriage?
Peace and I hope you follow this advise and not be fool number 3 million.

Answer 4

Why would he lie about that? Guys do think about that stuff too, they just aren't as open about it as women are. The fact that he asked you if you wanted kids tells me that he was thinking about it. But I think that you guys should wait and be patient because you do need to save a lot of money and grow up first. If he is saving money and working harder, it shows his commitment to you and a future family.

Answer 5

I'm sure he wants to have sex with you, and he might just be saying that he wants to have kids because he knows that you do, and that he might be able to motivate you to sleep with him if you thought he wanted to have a baby.

And he might be telling the truth, and he wants to have a kid.

But, realistically, can you and him afford kids right now?

Or would you have to drop out of school and go on welfare to support the kid?

Answer 6

How old are you? Even if he is telling the truth, I would NOT have kids if you're still in your teens. No amount of saving can prepare you for kids.

Wait a few years, trust me, you'll be glad you did.

Answer 7

If he is over the age of 18, it could very well be possible.
If he is under 18, then this is not normal and he probly just said it to make you happy and get some lovin.
If your under 18, wait..
You both need to at least graduate highschool and both have jobs.

This is reality , as harsh as it might sound to you

Answer 8

That would be the biggest mistake of your life. Guarenteed. Odds are that you will not even be with this guy forever. Wait until you are in your 20s with a decent career and education before you make that call.

Answer 9

Teenage guys DO NOT want kids, they just want to practice making them. Wake up honey.

Answer 10

HA HA HA HA HA, sorry, but I don't think so. If you or your man are teenagers, you have no reason to be talking abouthaving kids, wiat, you are young and have plenty of time.