I have been in two car accidents in the past 2 years and now just the thought of getting in the car when i know there is going to be heave traffic terrifies me, my bf tries to help but i know it irritates him and distracts his driving. I have tried keeping myself occupied but as soon as those brakes go on im fully concentrated on what the car in front, behind and on the side of us is doing. It gets so bad that sometimes i start to hyperventilate and feel faint and sometimes i cry.....if we have to stop suddenly all i can think about is the noise and pain from the impact of a car accident, and i dont know what to do, its affecting both me and my bf.
2006-11-10 04:00:04 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
oops ok so i TOTALLY forgot to mention a important detail apparently lol, i have drove since then, but i only go down the road and only when i KNOW there isnt going to be ANY traffic
2006-11-10 04:13:04 · update #1
Hunny~ I advise you seek counseling of some sort. Your experiencing a form of post traumatic stress from your recent car accidents. You will need to have a professional who can help you confront and eventually overcome these issues. Obviously for now I don't recommend driving anywhere alone if possible always try to have someone with you and better yet make sure they're driving! I really hope you seek help I don't want an unfortunate incident like that controlling your life. Best Wishes
2006-11-10 04:04:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend you're are going to seek help for this. Your doctor can recommend a professional. It is going to be a tough life for you if you can't ride in cars, and inconvenient for everyone, even if they understand your fear. You can slowly overcome this, even though your fear is understandable. I suggest you sit in the car in the driveway. Try both the front and the back seats. Then ask your bf to drive you slowly around a small block - no more than 3 or 4 minutes. Do that every day. Don't try to drive in busy traffic. You may have to stay in the back seat for months before you are ready for the front. Make sure your bf understands that your fear is justified and real, and that it is not going away without help - his help too! He has to adapt to the situation - pushing you will only make it worse. This is going to be a good test of his character and his love.
2006-11-10 04:14:20 · answer #2 · answered by Miz Teri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds pointless to start at such a small drive but do this.
Get in your car and just drive around the block.
Don't try to do any more, just come back home and let it be.
Next time, get in the car and drive around 2 or 3 blocks.
Keep going to that way just so you get the feel of driving.
Just keep working your way up little by little. Don't do these things at once. Come back home and don't even think about it anymore until later.
Just keep from driving in heavy traffic until you have worked your way up to that point.
It sounds dumb, but it helps doing stuff like that in every situation that you have anxiety about.
Try it out, trust me.
2006-11-10 04:06:08 · answer #3 · answered by chelseyiscool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so happy, it was only a 35 minute drive ( 70 minutes total) but absolutely no sign of anxiety or panic i shopped till I dropped - brilliant! I will now go for the next stage DUAL CARRIAGE way, probably at the weekend, with my husband accompanying me first then the solo drive, if successful the final stage of driving on motorway
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2016-05-17 12:38:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there and I understand where you are coming from. I suggest get in the car and you drive with someone that will have patience with you and go the the area where it happened. Drive defensively not with fear or anxiety. Be aware of your driving don't let your fear get the better of you. You can do this it will take time but get back on that horse and ride like the wind.
And watch out for the other guy!
2006-11-11 02:30:18 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember when I got into an car wreck a few years ago. It took me a long time to recover from this. I wasn't in a bad wreck, but it stil scared me. Kevin Treadau(auther of the book "Cures They Don't Want You To Know About") said that there is something you can do to get rid of these types of fears. You might try getting this information off of his website: www.naturalcures.com(there is a monthly fee), or it might be in his new book. I wish you all the best.
2006-11-10 04:12:39 · answer #6 · answered by Rosey55 D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your normal!.....form what u described the accident you were in must have been really bad.....it seems your not really ready to go crusin' try taking the bus or train or bike to where you need to go.....or tell your bf to make it a blockbuster night with take out from your fave place......take time to get over your trauma and ease back into the car
2006-11-10 04:22:56 · answer #7 · answered by dininat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get professional help. If you are consistently bothered it will lead to another accident which will multiply the problem.
2006-11-10 04:02:39 · answer #8 · answered by needhelp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need therapy. That's the only thing that will help you. You have to get through this and get to the other side and you haven't been able to do that by yourself.
2006-11-10 04:06:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Driving skill is uncomman in a few.
All drivers are not F1 drivers.
2006-11-10 04:03:36 · answer #10 · answered by SKG R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋