do woman want men to be100% radically honest with them?

Question

and will there be consequences if they are? Do you want a man to say..."you know...i lied yesterday your a s s does look really big! i would love it if you got on the exercise bike today and did something about it, but hey that is just me"

Would it be kill Bill time? Can you handle the truth? Do you ask for the 100% unadulterated radical truth in your relationship? If not, why not?

Answer 1

No one wants 100%, undiluted truth. No one. Just think of all the seriously crude/wicked/insulting/etc random thoughts that wander through our heads...even I don't like knowing I think such things about other people.

I live by the adage 'If you don't want to know, don't ask'.

Answer 2

No. There's a line between honest and brutally honest. Don't personally insult her, especially about things she might not be able to change easily (i.e. "you're nose is too big" or something like that). If you are so honest to the point of insult, then you're going to come across as nitpicky, arrogant, and unappreciative. When we ask for honesty, we mean when it really counts. Tell us if you went to the bar instead of staying late at work. Tell us if you think we're being too pushy or demanding or boring (don't let us find out the hard way!) Basically, be honest about things that matter, or things that can be worked out/communicated about. If it's something trivial, don't jeopardize your relationship by bugging her about it.

In the case of the exercise bike, it would be better if you suggested a physical activity the two of you could do together, that way she doesn't feel like your insulting/confusing her. Be like "Hey, you wanna go for a hike today? It's really nice outside, some fresh air would feel good." Rather than, "You really need to shed a few pounds. Hop on that bike!" It's all in how you phrase things, and the spirit in which you say them.

Answer 3

I prefer brute honesty in the moment, not a day or a week or a year later. I was lied to yesterday; he wanted to "tell me in person" after he lied to me on the phone. That doesn't cut it in my book. I am up-front and honest - and desire the same in a relationship. Unfortunately, I am now leaving this relationship of 14 years (unmarried), because the lying just cannot stop on his part. It's too bad, but I don't want to live the rest of my life being lied to. The act of lying is always worse than than what the lie is about!!!! Why don't people get that concept?

Answer 4

lieing about big butts ins't really the point.you can protect her feelings without lieing.yes women want the truth.you should never lie about the affairs of the heart. women are always concerned about the way they look,as long as she not embarrassing herself,be kind.but on the other hand if you thought she looked bad,i think you have the right to rethink her look.she should be able to handle some fine tuning from a friend or lover.

Answer 5

Okay well first off, my a s s looks good!!

But I've always told my man, if you don't have something nice to say, lie to me!

I can't handle the truth, I would much rather be lied to!!! It goes both ways though. There have been many times I've said, OMG you were awesome last night!

Answer 6

I would rather be told the complete truth. If my a$$ looked fat I would want my BF to tell me that rather then letting me go out thinking I looked good. The truth might hurt but No pain , No gain! I was really mad when I learned that my boyfriend was telling me I looked good while I was pregnant (even though I knew I didn't) only to hear him say months afterward - 'Oh yeah, you really were fat" Now I'm definately not fat but I rarely believe a word out of his mouth.

Answer 7

most women although they tell you they want the truth honestly just want the "pleasant" truth. If it's not in their best interest or if it makes them feel like chit then they secretly want a lie. As for me I don't ask anything. If my man ever told me to lose weight or to go to the gym I would simply quickly replace his azz. I know my worth so I don't need to go fishing for compliments which is what alot of women do to feel better about themselves

Answer 8

Some psychologists agree that "little white lies" in relationships are necessary ("Does this dress make me look fat?" "No, dear, you look beautiful!") I personally hate deception, and feel that if an issue surfaces, honesty is the best policy! If I've goofed up, I'm not going to come out and say shoulda, woulda, coulda, but if asked, I'll tell it like it is.

Answer 9

yes, i would want my man to be 100% honest, but that doesnt mean i would want to be insulted. if i asked, do i look fat, i would want a yes, those pants are a little tight, or something like that, but there is no need to be rude. i mean, i wouldnt tell my bf that needed to get on the bike and work off a couple pounds, but i would let him know he was looking heavier or something like that. people can be tactful while being honest ya know

Answer 10

Yes I would like a guy to be honest and depending on what the situation is...yes there can be consequences. Lying leads to distrust...and the statement you made in your question is totally unnecessary. You can be honest without being crude.

Answer 11

I would like to be told truth ALL the time. Now though, I don't want to hear anything about my *** being big. But anything as far as opinions, advice about situations or people, YES! But nothing to do with my body unless I honestly want to hear the truth.