Here's a Survey about fighting with in your relationship?

Question

I'm in college and I'm writing a report about Fighting with in a relationship. I really would like it if you can be honest about your answers all I need to know is your age, gender and how long have you been with your boy/girl friend, fiance, wife/husband. Also can you give a little detail if your fights have always escalade or just ended with a hug and a kiss. I'm also runing around campus asking the exact question.

Hmmm kind to think of it my professor has nothing better to do then make all of us run around asking personal questions. Thanks again People and have a great Friday!

Answer 1

I am male, 30 years old and have been married for 4 years, we argue about once every other month. The argument is over quick as we resolve whatever the issue is through communication. The key is to keep our emotions and emotional outbursts in check and to be as understanding at possible. The argument almost always end with both of us apologizing.

Answer 2

well i just got back with my boyfriend aftter 3 days of seperation (what seemed liekt he worst 3 dys of my life!) anyways thats a long story. but we got bcak together.

we've been dating for over a year and 11 months
im 19 years old, female, he's 18
we are both in our sophmore year of college.
when we fight it can be nasty sometimes we only had one fight where we were screaming and swearing at eachother.
but when we get into arguements or fights we try our besst to make our compromises. usually one of us just give up (usually me lol) cause he's right most of the time and i knwoi will never be able to get my point across. hopw many arguements we have a month? usually 3 or 4 so once every week. we always talkto eachother since we know screaming and all will not solve anything. but our arguements usually end int he question "are we okay now?" and if its a "yes, are you okay?" if both of those are a yes then it ends in a hug and a kiss.

if we get into a fight at midnign on the phone we will usually stay up for a whiel since neither of us would like to "sleep on it" we always resolve our issues quickly so communication is strong in our relationship. so basicallty we never not talk to echother for a couple days, we usually always work things out within the day. and so it ends in a hug and a kiss =)

our fights never escalate and never become over bearing. its always just talking, no screaming..that would'nt work lol

Answer 3

Age 39
Female
Over 22 years.

We disagree, we debate about it, I generally win,(( my husband agrees that I generally win, he laughs at how I am right so much, can't figure it out! )) we kiss and make up. Sound too simple ? Well that is just what its like for us.

We get along soooooooo well its scarey!! Sure we disagree about things but we always agree that we disagree and move on. Why people hold some disagreements over each others heads is beyond me. Some people are soooooooo pig headed they could never apologize. I make a point of apologizing with a hug and a kiss if I am proven wrong in our debate. If we both just have different feelings on something we simply move on about it and don't bring it up again.

When you love someone, you should respect the differences NOT dwell on them. If we were all the same, life sure would be rather dull!

Answer 4

Okay...

1. 29
2. female
3. 7 months with my bf
4. We don't really fight that often. We argue but it hasn't ever really escalated to the point that I would consider it a fight. My boyfriend is the type of person that when i get snotty or "attitude-y" with him, he kinds of laughs it off. That usually succeeds in pissing me off even more and then I walk away, slam a door and sulk, hoping that he's going to come in and give in to me. However, after the first 2 or 3 times this happened, I realized that he wasn't going to do that! He's been really good for me in that sense because my dad always told me that i was an instigator (like with my sister when we were kids) and would pick fights just to start trouble! My boyfriend doesn't let me get away with it and it's helped our relationship because I know that I can talk to him about important stuff and not resort to "picking" a fight to bring stuff up!

Answer 5

29 yr old Female
committed to the same Man since 1993, so 13 years

Yes, we have had fights, and we still argue occassionally. Sometimes they escalate, but they always end in hugs and kisses..even if one or both of us is still feeling hurt or is angry ..
Thats just how true love goes, you take the bad with the good and work it outfor the best of both parties interests..

Answer 6

I am 34, married, female. I have been married for almost 2 years, previously married to a jerk for 5.

When my hubby and I fight, it escalates very quickly, and I am usually the one doing all the yelling and name calling. He just sort of sits there and listens and stares at me. This makes me madder. And it escalates further. I finally just leave the room, slam a door, lock myself in the bathroom. He usually comes to apologize, and then we talk and make up after I have calmed down. Hugs and kisses follow, but not make-sex. More talking usually to sort things out.

Answer 7

I'm 52 , female, have been in this relationship fpr 5 years. We have never had a fight. If he gets cranky I keep my mouth shut. That way I know I'll never say anything I'll have to take back or be sorry for later. (so far he's never been cranky with me)