good help please?

Question

im 20 years old and my boyfriend is 21 hes a soldier in the U.S army. we've met trough friends we started dating then we fall in love. but the main thing is im still living with my father, he doesnt even allowed me to even talk to guys, hes not the kind of people that you could sit down and have a heart to heart with if any of you ever seen the movie selena then abraham is just like my dad execpt he would never acept my choice at the end then understand he would think its disrecpectful just to tell him im in love. but my boyfriend want me to marry him and move in with him but im scared that if i get married and move out my father will forever hate me and never talk to me for the rest of his life. but i want to be with the love of my life i want to be my own women but my dad wont let me,
please help i wanna be independent but im scared of what my dad might think.

Answer 1

Your 20 years old girl. You need to start your own life. If your dad really cares about you, he wont go his life not talking to you. You man sounds like a good one, he is serving his country. Hopefully your dad will warm up to him a bit. Its a tough one to help with, as I don't know your dad. He is probably just scarred to loose his little girl. You man probably wont stay in one place, your marriage to him might take you to a different state or country! Try to talk to you dad, if that's too hard, write him a letter. Letters are always a good way of getting feelings out. I say try to get your Dad OK with the idea of you getting married, but if he isn't, you shouldn't let that get in the way. You man will become your family and hopefully he'll take good care of you. Good Luck!

Answer 2

Oh honey, this is year 2006, you are 20 years old & have been an adult for 2 years now, your dad cannot tell you what to do, move out ASAP!!! marry your boyfriend trust me your dad loves you & will NOT hate you , he might even walk you down the isle, who cares if he likes your boyfriend, as long as you do, my dad didn't like my boyfriend either when I was 15, I am now 33 & 18 years later we are still together-married w/ a beutiful little girl, go w/ your heart not what your daddy wants you to do, by the way now my dad loves my now husband & yes he did walk me down the isle!

Answer 3

It may not be easy, but you have to grow up sometime, whether your dad likes it or not. Let him in on stuff, but also let him know that this is your decision. You are a big girl, and he needs to accept it. I realize thats easier said than done. You can't live with your dad forever. Sometimes you just can't please some people and you can't live your life trying to do the impossible. Good luck!

Answer 4

At 20 you should be your own person, but if you are still living with your father, then you should live by his rules...I know it sounds trite, but you aren't living on your own yet. Also, shouldn't you be going to college or working?? If you are working, then tell him you've saved up enough money and get your own place. Then he won't be able to tell you what to do anymore.

Answer 5

If your dad loves you he won't hate you for wanting to do something with your life. He might not be happy about it at first but if you stand firm about it he'll eventually come around. And if not, you're better off without him in your life.

Answer 6

you need to start your own life no matter what your dad thinks..either he will respect your choice or he wont..tell him you think its time for you to grow up and move on and see what he says

Answer 7

You just asked this under a different name.

You didn't like the answers that everyone to their time to give you.
I'm beginning to wonder if it is you who has the problem, not your father.

Answer 8

you have to be your own person, you can't live your life his way, and even if he doesn't speak to you at first, you just have to go ahead, he will come around one day, because no matter what, you are his daughter... he just doesn't want to lose you, but you have to live YOUR life, NOT HIS...