my 19 month old son isnt sharing??

Question

how do i get my 19 month old to share with other kids? i've tried giving them both the same toys and they still want each others, and distraction doesnt work for either of them..

and, how do i get him to be more careful and gentle around babies and kids without using time out because it doesnt work.. and yes i've tried more then once.

also.. he throws a fit when i change his diaper.. and yes i'm trying to do the whole potty thing and i'll keep trying but for now hes just not interested.. but he tries to get up and move around and grab the diaper and everything, and i've tried distracting him which also doenst work even with a new book or small toy he can hold onto.

help!!

i know they cant understand the concept, but what im saying is i want to have him understand just a TINY bit.

also.. u said to take the toys away, if they do it with every toy what are they going to play with????

Answer 1

All you can do is keep repeating the lesson over and over and over... Toddlers learn through repetition, so the more he hears it from you, the more ingrained in his brain it will become. I have a great poem about the "Toddler Property Laws" that goes:
If it looks like mine, it's mine.
If I have one like it at home, it's mine.
If you are playing with it, and I want it, it's mine.
If I had it a little while ago, it's mine.
If saw it first, it's mine.
If it's broken, it's yours.
This basically sums up what toddlers are all about when it comes to sharing. It just isn't a concept that exists yet, and it has to be taught. Keep at it... one day it will click!

Answer 2

I think all you can do is keep showing him what it means to share. He won't do it for quite awhile! At this age the only person in the world is them and any other people that might be around (including kids) are there to help him get what he wants, or just to give it to him. He doesn't have the ability to "play with" other kids, just to co exist with them. Of course he will play with them sometimes, but the sharing and careful things will come with time. Sounds like you are doing the right thing. Potty training really shouldn't start until 2 at the earliest and you'd probabally be more sucessful if you waited until he was 2.5 or 3.
Good Luck.
Sounds like a normal toddler to me!

Answer 3

toddlers are not into sharing.....they still think they are the center of the universe and other people do not matter....it's not a bad thing it just IS! only time and repeatedly being told and shown how to share will cure the stingyness of a toddler.

my son who is 15mo had been throwing fits about diaper changing since he was 8 mo old. so since this is old hat to me i usually try to distract him, give him something i usually don't let him have ie my cell phone, let him run around naked for a while, or sometimes just overpower him and put the damn thing on. however what i do ALWAYS do is mix it up because if you use the same tricks all the time they are no longer tricks! so try these different techniques and just be strong.

Answer 4

First off, kids don't 'get' the concept of sharing until they are avout 4 years old. Second, he's too young for time outs and for potty training. If they are fighting over toys, I'd just take the toys away from them. When my 2nd was born, I would take my son's hand and let him touch her hand and say "easy" or gentle" and then that should him that he had to be gentle if he wanted to touch the baby.

I used to change my son's daiper like this: sit on the couch with him laying across my lap (like his bum on my legs and then his back and head on the couch) It's easier to control them and harder for them to roll and get away.

ETA: what do you do for time outs? I put my son in the highchair in the kitchen and leave the room that way he can't run off. If he screams/crys I leave him there until he calms down. No toys, no talking to him while in time out. The more you do it, the less time they will freak out for in time outs.

Answer 5

sounds like a baby. The diaper thing is normal. Both of my girls did it. mabey be alittle more firm in your tone of voice. With the sharing thing, well same thing. If they can't share then try timeout, or just take the toys away. kids are kids and there is not alot you can do that they will understand at this age. good luck. it gets better, but at the same time, it dosen't.

Answer 6

This is what helped my son. He and I practice taking turns. We play in the floor with the toys he really likes. When I'm playing with one, I say "wow look at the cool car, JiJi, would you like a turn with the car?". If he nods I let him play with it, then I ask him can I have a turn with the car. If he says no, I tell him he has 2 minutes then mommy gets a turn. Then I wait 2 minutes and make a really big deal about him sharing and waiting his turn.

It took us a few weeks to get JiJi to share and wait his turn. He'd throw tantrums, but we just stuck to the script. We let him tantrum until the 2 minutes were up then give him the toy. I know it sounds crazy, but it works. My son has a developmental disability and was very tough to train in this area, but this really worked.

Answer 7

Well he still is very young. Kids tend to do that. Always do the give and take "thank you" game with him, he will eventually understand growing up. My daughter always was difficult when I was changing diapers, I had to do it with her standing up.
Just keep ur cool and it will be fine.

Answer 8

at the start i'm rather sorry approximately your concern. It sounds tough. 2nd, as problematic because it particularly is, my advice to you is to purely permit him cry while he acts that way. for my area, he has discovered that crying is how he gets his very own way. in case you end responding to it, then he will learn that it won't artwork and he will at last provide up. He has to learn which you are the boss, no longer him. in spite of in case you're interior the process the food market, purely permit him cry. i know it particularly is going to be embarassing yet each and every physique with teenagers will understand. purely tell him you adore him yet you're actually not likely to hold him. of direction it particularly is okay for him to cry while something is particularly incorrect and then he must be held, yet no longer while he's throwing a tantrum purely for the sake of being held. He senses your frustration and your prefer to do something to get him to end crying in public, and he makes use of that to get his very own way. 2 year olds are enormously intelligent! do no longer permit him sense your frustation considering is purely enticing him greater into the drama. save your cool, prepare him you're on top of problems with the region, and this ought to get greater desirable with time.

Answer 9

It is all in the genes! Did the father or you share when you were babies? He certainly is not old enough to have learned this behavior.