have lost than to never have loved at all. I lost my only ever love years ago and noone comes close. I am now left suspended in eternal sadness and yearning for my soulmate. Can anyone suggest how to get over him once and for all.
2006-11-10 03:51:14 · 24 answers · asked by bluegizmored 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is better to have loved and lost.. then to have never loved at all.They say this because Love builds relationship after relationship..Love Never really Dies..hard to understand but its true ...cherish what u had..write it down and burn it..dont listen to sad songs..and just try to not think of him..I know its difficult. you will cry alot.. Pray...I say one for u 2... keep your chin up..
2006-11-10 03:56:09 · answer #1 · answered by dreamy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Plain and simple.. Its been years, you have to move on. You have to realize that what ever the reason that person is no longer with you, yes you have the memories, yes it could hurt a lot, but you cannot ever be happy again if you do not let go. How are you going to be happy in a new relationship when all you do is compare it to your last one. Everybody is different. No relationship is going to be the same EVER. So until you realize this and allow yourself to have an open mind you are going to be stuck.
Meeting new and different types of people could be very exciting and it can also teach you new aspects of yourself. You should give it a try and realize that the past is the past and the future is what you have to now live in.
2006-11-10 12:15:08 · answer #2 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot obsess over the past. You will only find someone new to love, if you let the past go and commit yourself to the rest of your life. Dwelling on the past is not good for either your heart or your soul. Living for the now and tomorrow is the answer. We love more then once in our lifetimes, but we never love two people the same way. No one comes close to the man that you've lost simply because there are no two people who are the same. Look for someone more today and now not someone like the one that's gone.
2006-11-10 11:57:43 · answer #3 · answered by HGS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your yearning from the past is stopping you from moving in. You have built this guy up to be something he isn't. I bet if you met him now he would be a completely different person. Once you let go of the past you can look to the future. It is better to have loved and lost - if you had never loved you would always be wondering why not.
2006-11-10 11:53:19 · answer #4 · answered by Ally 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes, it is right. I lost my husband, but I wouldn't trade the years we had together for anything. I don't anticipate another relationship. I have a full life as it is. That doesn't mean I won't allow one. But it is not a priority. If you are speaking of a break-up, that can be very difficult to overcome. Just try to concentrate on what you have, not what you lost. Make your life as fulfilled as you can. Concentrate your efforts on your career, your family, or friends, or whatever makes you happiest. And in all fairness to potential suitors, try not to compare them to your other love. No one will ever be a match. Enjoy the differences instead. Good luck.
2006-11-10 11:55:57 · answer #5 · answered by Emm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its supposed to make you feel better that you've at least experienced the happiness of love albeit for a short time. Some people are never lucky enough to find love ever . I know what you mean though. Just take it a day at a time and love will come knocking once more - usually when you least expect it. Hope its soon for you xx
2006-11-10 11:53:00 · answer #6 · answered by starlet108 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all wounds. Basically what the saying means is that there will always be times in life that hurt... so enjoy the good moments in life because you never know how long they are going to last... live in the moment. You may have the night of your life and be on cloud nine... two months later you catch the putz in bed with your best friend.... You can't change yesterday, You don't know about tomorrow, So enjoy today! Take care of yourself and be ready to meet someone new... there are millions of people all over the world that are having a rougher time in life than you and I... good luck to you friend... It will pass, I promise. :)
2006-11-10 11:59:21 · answer #7 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never get over him. He will always be part of your life and who you are. You just have to remember the good times that you had together. And, when you are with someone else; you may not love them the way you loved him, but that does not mean that you don't love that person. You just love them in a different way. You lost someone that you loved and no one will ever replace them, but you can still love. You need to try focusing on the new love in your life instead of the one you lost. But don't think I am saying to forget him you should never forget him.
2006-11-10 12:00:02 · answer #8 · answered by melwil25 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it is better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all. Life is all about experience. If you had never loved, you would never have experienced all that warmth, companionship, romance, etc. and you would be forever wondering what it would have been like.
To get over him...hmmm, toughy. It takes time, a fab bunch of friends that can take your mind off it during bad patches and will power. you will only be able to get over him if you accept that it happened, it was lovely, but it is no more and that you need to move on. If you can't get to that way of thinking, you will never get past it.
Good luck, its hard, but you are a strong enough person to do it!
2006-11-10 11:56:29 · answer #9 · answered by Liggy Lee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I split up with my soulmate 4 months ago. We were together 4 and half years. I feel totally devasted and fear that I won't meet someone again, who i love as much. As ppl have said you need not to compare people to the ex and try to release those feelings.
2006-11-10 12:08:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋