I have a major problem. I was dating this guy from my church. Eveything was going great and all we were taking things slow. That is how he wanted it. He told me that he wanted to make things work between us. He stoped doing all his stuff and was even trying to stop smoking cig.! He told me that I was the only person he had feelings for like this and all that mushy stuff. it suprised me because i know hes not like that. Well anywase he started doing all his mess again and he found out by one of his friends that also goes to our church that i was really upset. so he broke up with me he told me that he didn't want me to wory about him that he just couldn't take it. I talk to his mom some times and she tells me that she wishes we would get back together and that he does still talk about me but we have been broke up for a year now. well my problem is that i miss him so much and i think about him all the time what should i do i know he's the one.
2006-11-10 03:45:39 · 12 answers · asked by babyblue1512000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
that question really scares me!! bc my bf stopped doing drugs and all this for me..except cigs bc i smoke them too but..he doesnt do drugs..he doesnt go f*cking every girl with a cooch anymore bc hes changed and in love with me and its great except we fight a lot..did yous fight a lot? alls i can say to you is that if your relationship WAS like how me and my bfs IS and that happened to me..i would soo try getting back with him and do ANYTHING and EVERYTHIGN i possibly can to get him back..bc ive never been in love like this b4..and i dont think you have either so i think were a lot alike and that yuo should never give up on true love..do what your heart feels is best
2006-11-10 03:51:56 · answer #1 · answered by alissaxnicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those are CHEMICALS in your brain that make you long for him. There are chemicals in HIS brain that make him long for cigarettes and maybe a twinge of guilt, hope character that make him want to change, but don't get involved with his struggle---he is foundering and let God handle that--his mom knows him better than you do: if she couldn't influence him, then you're unlikely to!!
Please don't listen to the stupid A** guys who encourage you to fail your own values. Go read some books on "the Nature of Love" so you can understand what's driving your emotions (we all have to manage our emotions, or they manage us). Ditto for the guys. Gain some perspective. And respect these powerful hormones--the bible calls them heart, love and soul. Science can show you the chemicals behind them. Love comprises both heady emotions and heady chemicals--create a buffer: read some more--a little knowledge goes a long way. Keep yourself valuable to you--we are all in search of valuing our self first. When we have that, we can learn to value others. Some confused people seek to value themselves by devaluing others--that is evil. Some feel so devalued that ANYTHING goes. Ultimately you want to give BOTH self and other value. It starts with you loving you. I'm Christian, too, but sometimes we misinterpret Jesus' words "If any one would be first, he must be last of all and servant of all." THAT is about being GREATEST: as is our Christ. Not you. You are Christ's humble servant, not servant to this cigarette smoking goofball who's still groping about for his character. Finding his character and path is his job, not yours. If you truly think he's the one, then keep your wits about you and let him come to you...with answers, not weakness and addictions. Put your mind, your desire to help into something constructive for the community: tutoring kids or helping feed the hungry. STAY AWAY from giving your love to someone not yet ready to accept it, honor it, return it!
2006-11-10 04:12:59 · answer #2 · answered by Yenelli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done this. Seriously, if he's not having it, then you should try to move on. It's not easy, I know that from personal experience, but in the long run, it's the best thing. Do you really want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?
2006-11-10 03:48:47 · answer #3 · answered by Shadow's Melon 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i would say to not get back together with him. he broke your heart once, he'll probably do it again. your better than that! dedicate your life to someone that's worth it. there are plenty more fish in the sea! I'm sure you'll find someone that's the one i know you may think he's the one but that's how all of us feel when we get our hearts broken. find someone that's worth your time and effort. your better than that i promise.
2006-11-10 04:01:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget him Hes gone Youre out of luck
i see the imitations are still happening
2006-11-10 03:48:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh common dont b a bay just leave him alone and date sommon else
2006-11-10 03:53:15 · answer #6 · answered by hillarious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know he's the one, then let HIM know that....tell him how you feel and see what happens. If he is the one then things will work themselves out. Don't stress yourself out too much about it.
2006-11-10 03:48:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
don't get mad and grossed out by this, but if you give him great head then he will be latched on to you like you couldn't even imagine.
2006-11-10 03:48:47 · answer #8 · answered by JV 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ask him for a date---and then take him out for dinner
2006-11-10 03:53:26 · answer #9 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should go along with him
2006-11-10 03:47:34 · answer #10 · answered by dhirsapan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋