when i lost weight men lost intrest ijn me?

Question

When i lost weight men stopped being intrested in me why?
i was never fat i was just curvy. i hads big hips and a booty. then i went and lost 40 pounds. i lost my hips my bum. men just dont want to know now honestly. beforehand when i was bigger men would ask me out and if i went out clubbing, i was the 1st person out of mt friends to get asked to dance. now when i go out men dont even look at me. it wasent that i wass unhappy with my body i just wanted to get alittle healthier but now men pay no atention to me and i feel ugly. why is this

Answer 1

You need to find men who like a normal (not fat) woman.

Trust me, the answer is most of us.

Answer 2

Could it be this happened only once? Are you making this out to be more of a problem than it really is?

Most all men like a women that is closer to her proper weight.
There are many however that do like larger women. Especially with larger hips....it has something to do with natural selection. Larger hips better at childbirth. Yea I know it is bull but it is a subconscious factor.

There are many reasons why this may have happened.
When you go out do you go with a lot of friends?
Are your friends super friendly and really hot? In other words are your friends detracting from your new beautiful self.

You lost 40 lbs. If you were at 200 let's say that means now you are at 160. But if you were at 170 you are now at 130 and....depending on your height.....may look pretty skinny.

That alone could be the problem. Curvy, oh yea, skinny...well not so appealing. But that is my own personal preference.
You are still that super woman you were before...just less of you.
I am sure you are far from ugly so get that out of your mind. Remember that woman that was first to dance? It wasn't your big butt that attracted them.

Quite often when you loose that much weight you don't look healthy. Any chance that could be a factor? That is a lot of weight and would require some toning up. Do you exercise? You really need to.

If this continues to be a problem ask a friend what is going on. Maybe they can tell you.

Answer 3

Do you think your too skinny now?? I am very curvy with a big ol booty. Now I am not fat at all. I have a flat stomach. Some men do like curvy women. There are exercises out there that can make your butt a little bigger; Lunges and squats. I have a question.....how did you loose the weight?? Please email me at [e-mail]. Thank you. I'm sure your still beautiful....I don't know what your body looks like, but there are men out there that I am sure are interested. I am a gym freak. I stay in the gym all the time. If anything....my butt as gotten bigger, that is why I am curious how you lost the weight??

Answer 4

First off, you can not base your self esteem around how much attention you get from men. That is the biggest mistake women make in life. Your self esteem should come from within and from your relationship with God.

As far as your body, if you are happy with it and you feel healthier, then good for you. I assume you are African-American, and I will tell you that yes, most African-American men like women with curves and hips and a rear end. But, you should also note that men of other races will probably start hitting on you soon, since they seem like admire thinner women. I've am curvy and very hippy, but my weight has gone up and down through the years. When I'm very hippy--black men ask me out..When I'm slender, its white men and other men who ask me out. Also, black men from east Africa also seem to like thin women as well.

Be open to dating other races--Latino, Arab, even white. I get so tired of black women acting like African-American men are the last men on the planet. They're not

Also, I would recommend that you stop being so focused on Finding a Man. Too many women base their whole life on "looking for love", when the best thing a woman can do is Focus On Herself. Get your career going on, or focus on college and your future, and Follow Your Dreams. Become the best you, make your own money, Love Yourself, and you will be much happier in life. Men come and men go, but God will never leave you, and if you have Happiess that comes from within--that will never leave you either. Peace

Answer 5

Thick and curvy is "in" these days, and a voluptuous woman probably stands out more. Another thing could be that thin/fit women have a negative stereotype of being mean, arrogant and unattainable. Being comfortable with yourself plays a role also. They'll start to come back around.

Answer 6

it depends on the race of guys you want to notice you. I cant speak for any other race but if you want an african american guy they want a little meat on your bones. As most guys i go out with say Theres more cushion for the pushin. When you at the club dancin a dude wants somethin they can grab onto and feel on.If you dacncin on a dude if you fave no hips what is he supposed to grab onto.Most african american men want a girl thats fat(not disgusting),big bonned,chubby or almost skinny still having a butt and hips.But you use what you got to get the dudes....Not all are into body types

Answer 7

You had those curves that made you stand out from the rest. 40 lbs is a lot of weight to lose if you werent overweight to begin with. Maybe you just lost too much.

Answer 8

When I lose weight ppl just ask me if I am sick. I am 5'4" 155lbs, size 12, I guess more ppl like big bums than you would think from TV and magazines...

Answer 9

maybe you also lost your great personality along with your weight.. no really, just keep the confidence and continue being you. ^_^

Answer 10

Those guys are totally shallow if they only liked you for your butt. You will find a guy that will like you for you, not for your butt. It just takes time. Go you for losing weight!!