I started going out with this guy recently that I knew when I was younger we get along great, when we are together it feels like magic altough he is 10 years older than me, we have the best times together, well a few days ago I found out that he left his ex girlfriend who has MS and will eventually die from this for me? he had been with her for 13 years? should I feel guilty? or should I just go on and be with him? please any advise will help
2006-11-10 03:04:40 · 10 answers · asked by sweetnessus8 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, you shouldn't feel guilty. If he wants to be with you, and not her, it's his decision to make. Just because she has MS, shouldn't matter. We will all die one day of something. He made a choice that was his to make. Just be happy.
2006-11-10 03:07:43 · answer #1 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you should feel guilty yourself but I would really question the manhood of this gentleman. Who leaves someone in that position. He is bailing out after 13 years? I could not respect that and I would not want to be with a person like that. Life is great when you are working and have some money, your health, friends... that is when things are easy and life is a bowl of cherries... You learn the most about people when things are not going well and the chips are down... that is when people need you the most to be there and ride out the storm. It may sound harsh but I think this man is a loser, not only is he a whole decade older than you, you already know that if you commit yourself to him that he will bail on you if something bad happens... That is not a person I could love.
2006-11-10 11:12:59 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't make the decision to leave his ex he did and if he doesn't feel guilty, then there is no reason you should carry that kind of burden for him. If you really like the guy then be with him and let him deal with his own conscience. Carry the guilt for him will only make it hard for you to enjoy what you have with him. Don't worry things always work themselves out eventually and this will too.
2006-11-10 11:10:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't feel too bad until you talk to him. If it really bothers you talk to him openly. He may have been planning to leave all along and you just came in at the right time. Now if he left her because she developed MS that's reason to worry. You want someone to be with you no matter what (i'm guessing you guys are serious). Just talk to him calmly about it. Don't let it eat at your or you will ruin the relationship.
2006-11-10 11:10:03 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he just needed any excuse to leave her, and you gave him one. Should you feel guilty? Only if you knew he was with her to begin with. But he was the one who had the commitment with her, not you. He was supposed to be faithful to her, not you. But think about this, what kind of guy leaves a woman when she needs him most?
2006-11-10 11:08:21 · answer #5 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't blame yourself or him.
I'm sure he is feeling pretty low right now.
But what he was facing. Frankly few people can handle.
What he did may not be popular.
He is gonna need some heavy support for his guilt.
I personnaly don't think he should. It's just too much to handle.
But he will.
You need to heelp him live and not drift into that bad place.
2006-11-10 11:12:19 · answer #6 · answered by Kaustaub 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel guilty? You are the only one who could answer that.
2006-11-10 11:17:17 · answer #7 · answered by elgil 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that has anything to do with you. Whatever decision he has made is only him.
2006-11-10 11:09:06 · answer #8 · answered by Mumbling Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will feel guilty, how you handle it is up to you...
2006-11-10 11:08:54 · answer #9 · answered by Thomas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-10 11:07:51 · answer #10 · answered by Sher K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋