i have a lover ........it's just that i'm over him i don't feel the excitement like i used to.......he has turned into hard work...........at 1st i really thought he was the one he forfilled some want i had and now it's like i have to convince myself just to talk to him.....he says he still just wants to be friends but when i treat him like just a friend he gets all weird........what to do next?
2006-11-10 03:01:07 · 11 answers · asked by non-curious 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, some people get addicted to the chemical response the brain has when 'love' is generated in the mind.
2006-11-10 03:02:16 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That feeling is call addicted to love. It's not really love. It's just that you want to feel happy all the time because someone is meeting your needs for the moment. But it'll quickly die off and send you searching for the next guy to do the same thing all over again. True love is never selfish and greedy like being addicted to love. You should grow a heart and look inside for your own happiness instead of looking out there and confusing all those poor guys.
2006-11-10 03:07:46 · answer #2 · answered by tofu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have just gotten over a relationship that was kind of like this. The guy told me he loved me before we even started going out, and I had never been in love before so I thought I was. It turns out that I was in love with what I thought love was. When you lose the excitement and it becomes hard work, it is no longer love. Love isn't always fun and games and it is hard work, but it shouldn't be NOTHING BUT hard work. And if you have to convince yourself to talk to him I can easily say that you do not love him. I think you should maybe take a break from this guy. Love is too special to be wasting time with someone who just wants to be your friend but gets mad at you when you try.
2006-11-10 03:05:28 · answer #3 · answered by fiorie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sure, that is why so many of us get involved in relationships that we know will only last a few dates or a few months. We are in love with the idea of being in love and we want to make that connection so badly. We watch romantic movies and read romantic novels.... everyone, men and women, are waiting for that promised soul mate, knight in shining armor! That is why we are human, that is why we are fragile... we all need to give love and to be loved in return. That is why no matter how many times someone tramples on your heart you need to get up off of the canvas and try again with someone else!
2006-11-10 03:07:02 · answer #4 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a thing that my friend did when she thought she was in love with this guy she was with. The thing my friend did was wierd but it worked for her so I think it will work for you. Have ya'll ever kissed? Well when you kiss him do you ever feel fireworks? Well if you do then it's meant to be and it's love. And if you don't then maybe it is best ya'll be friends. This determines the next step in the relationship. And if you do feel fireworks then take it slow at first.
2006-11-10 03:08:32 · answer #5 · answered by Shizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now you figure out that all relationships are hard work and if you want to be in one it requires a little bit of work on your part.
and yes you are probably just in love with the feeling of being in love. you sound young, don't be in such a hurry to grow up.
2006-11-10 03:04:31 · answer #6 · answered by onlylove41 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to make a clean break. He isn't doing it for you anymore, and this relationship is supposed to be fun, not work. If you can't even bring yourself to want to talk to him, it's time to go. It's going to hurt....someone always ends up hurt when relationships go bad. But, it's the right thing to do. Make a break, stay away from each other for a while. Time will heal this.
2006-11-10 03:04:28 · answer #7 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
One can fall in love without seeing what to talk of feeling.
2006-11-10 03:08:27 · answer #8 · answered by Paassion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you believe feeling Love is not beeing in Love? He needs you first! He needs you to be active... Is his mom a strong woman?
2006-11-10 03:06:57 · answer #9 · answered by simplegirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You started this, and there is no easy way out. You have to be honest with him and say that you only want to be friends with him and nothing more.
2006-11-10 03:09:29 · answer #10 · answered by EchoCharlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋