so theres this boy . ive gone out with him 3 times. Basically, when i break up with him he gets really depressed and yells at me constantly and says hes gunna kill himself, which hurts me because hes one of my bestfriends. thing is, deep deep down i'll always love my ex. i went to a party a few weeks ago and i said i missed him and he said he missed me too, then i broke up with my boyfriend(the second time, we went out the year before) and the other guy and his girlfriend broke up.. then i asked him out and he said no, because he doesnt wanna hurt anyone. now im going out with the boy i was with before, and idk if i like him, and yesterday i figured out that the guy i really love is trying to decide between me and another girl. my boyfriends getting suspicious, i dont wanna hurt him.. but its the right thing to do.But theres no guarantee im gunna get the other boy, who ive always loved. but theres a high chance.. & hes amazing. hes everything.wht do i do?the dance is this friday.Help!
2006-11-10 03:01:06 · 13 answers · asked by xPEANUTx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
too many words, both guys kinda looked to me like 8 gus coz of the way u refered to them. u confuse me honey! However, be all and end alL, I'd say go with ur heart. go for they one u really love & if the one u said is treatnen suicide is the one u dont really like, then good for u cos i wont advise u to stay with with a guy that keeps u in a relationship by emotional blackmail.
if the one u like is the one that is tryin to make up his mind about u & another girl, then u had better let him know that u are the one for him or else he might choose the other girl if he thinks u are still in another relationship. so dis the suicide guy and let the one u love know u ar available to him before or at the dance. preferably before the dance so he doesnt come to he dance with the other girl and then it will be kinda let for ur declaration!
good luck.
2006-11-10 03:16:58 · answer #1 · answered by joanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u of course will hurt him but whats worse is you hanging on to him when you don't want him.if you are a sincere person you will break it off with your present guy,even if you don't get the other guy back who you say is trying to decide between you and another girl.what are you a slice of pizza waiting for some one to choose you ?make a decision about the guy you are with now who is being used as a substitute and stick by that decision.your life shouldn't be on hold for some one else choice.
2006-11-10 03:10:20 · answer #2 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to follow your heart. do what is best for you and if you don't know if you like the guy your with now it's just as unfair to lead him on than if you were to just break it off with him. Him saying he's going to kill himself is most likely a ploy to get you to stay with him. There's no real nice way to break it off with someone, you just have to try to explain to him you can't keep seeing him, because it's not fair to either of you. Try to make it a mutal fault instead of making sound like there's more fault one way or the other. Remember you can't be true to anyone else until you can be true to yourself. Good luck!
2006-11-10 03:06:58 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to break his heart, no matter what you do. Just do it and get it over with so you can both move on and begin to heal. the longer youwait the worse it will get.
2006-11-10 03:02:22 · answer #4 · answered by czekoskwigel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it quickly. You're not doing him or yourself any favors by hanging on. You are not responsible for his actions and the quicker you do it and make a clean break the quicker he can move on. He will hurt but he will get over it.
2006-11-10 03:04:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should break up w/ your boyfriend, you dont want to be with him and it isnt fair that the only reason you seem to be with him is so that you have a boyfriend. it shouldnt matter what your ex does, if you dont care for your current boyfriend let him move on.
2006-11-10 03:03:26 · answer #6 · answered by BiancaVee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but you'll have to break his heart one way or the other. There aren't any exceptions to this one.
2006-11-10 03:06:49 · answer #7 · answered by supernerd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to ask your self.....who do you really truly love, that is your answer, and if you want to break up with ur bf just tell him in a nice way
2006-11-10 03:04:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it with the truth and make it a clean break up...don't drag it out or make any dumb excuse. JUST END IT!!
2006-11-10 03:03:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay single and tell the truth.
2006-11-10 03:04:08 · answer #10 · answered by Good Grief 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋