I have slept with a man whom i've known for 2 years. He is good looking and successful man over 20 years older than me. We've always had chemistry but never had sex because I was married -separated now.
He invited me to dinner with some members of his family and we were all over each other, like two teenagers. Than we had a fantastic night. I think we both are in love with each other.
However he is a famous playboy and Casanova, and has a reputation of dating one girl after another.All his women are stunning.I am good looking as well.
However yesterday as we were having dinner he was making comments about us having a future together, and maybe even children.He invited me out with his friends this morning, and texted me during the day to say he really enjoyed last night.
But I keep suspecting that he is just playing. And spoke about serious relationships to get me into bed with him..I don't trust him. Am i right? What are the signs he is playing and is not sincere?
2006-11-10 02:46:25 · 18 answers · asked by Rita B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry... but what he wants doesn't matter... what really matters is what YOU want...
Did you follow the point?
2006-11-10 02:57:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 12⤊ 0⤋
Its a difficult situation. However, I'd say just keep it casual and fun. You're having a great time together and obviously enjoying each others company, so why worry about anything else at this stage? Spend time getting to know each other properly before you start talking about a future together and children. You might be falling in love with each but I strongly suspect (particularly by your references to the physical side of things) that you are just in lust at the moment. What you are experiencing is that fantastic time at the beginning of a relationship when its all new and all you have seen are each others good points rather than bad points! Just give it time. If he's been a player int he past, it doesn't mean he is going to be a player with you. But play it safe with him and don't get too involved until you're sure of his true feelings.
2006-11-10 03:06:12 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you just said, I would feel the same way that you do. He is 20 years older than you, which means that if you 2 where to stay together that he would eventually become a sugar-daddy to you and if he is seeing as many women as you say he is, then why would he want to settle down. It sounds like you have been had, but I could be wrong. Have been before, will be again. This sounds like a soap opera I saw one time.
2006-11-10 02:58:35 · answer #3 · answered by golden rider 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't forget: you're bound to be a little confused about what has happened because you've recently separated.
You say you think you are in love with each other but at the same time think that he may be playing; is this way of thinking connected in any way to how your marriage ended?
If, as you say, "I don't trust him," then how can you contemplate a future together?
Remember, he has twenty years more experience of relationships than you, and perhaps you need to take a bit of time to figure out why your mariage ended before pursuing a new one.
Good Luck!
2006-11-10 02:54:08 · answer #4 · answered by Neil_R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reason why you are at odds with yourself is because you do like this guy but your hesitance comes from his reputation.
one question though; is he reputed to be a casanova or was it just hearsay?
i recommend that you follow your heart and your hesitations. better be safe than sorry, and in any case that he meant all the things he said to you, he should follow up with his words, shouldnt he? his coming actions will prove it all.
or in any case, since he is older than you, i hope he is much more mature in his thinking; have a good talk with him. tell him your concerns. better know the truth than live in self denial.
2006-11-10 03:00:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anna D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you slept with him because you wanted to, didnt you? If he hasnt married anyone yet and had children and is 20 years older than you, then i shouldnt think he is likely to, would you? I presume you are what, in your 20s?? So he's in his 40's?
It depends what you want out of life, but if it is marriage and kids, he's not your man.
2006-11-10 02:54:32 · answer #6 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were married and now sepparated and he is 20 years older than you. Hmm you are 40 and he is 60 ewwe do people at 60 have sex is it even legal?
2006-11-10 04:20:10 · answer #7 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You amaze me that you can objectively provide all this information but can't see the handwriting on the wall. You don't give your age, but you are obviously, horny, needy and gullible.
You should remember what your parents told you: If it looks like a skunk and smells like a skunk, it is probably a skunk. Good looks and success don't change it's nature.
2006-11-10 02:59:06 · answer #8 · answered by snvffy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have your own doubts already about trust do you think its a good idea to start a relationship in the first place?
2006-11-10 02:53:46 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Pink Princess♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have anything to worry about. If he'd said that stuff before you'd slept together, I would be a bit suspicious, but just go for it and be happy!
2006-11-10 03:47:19 · answer #10 · answered by jowigley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has a history of being a player than you won't have much chance of him being good. He will string you along so leave him and find someone who will treat you right.
2006-11-10 02:50:05 · answer #11 · answered by Peter W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋