we started out just having sex and thats it(i found out he was a virgin after the 5th time ) now we r a couple the first couple of times it was good now its just a minute thing he says that he cant help it but i offered for him 2 leave me alone and go and have sex with someone else so he could determine the diffrence maybe that would help but he said no i luv him he love me but hes not satisfying me and i dont want 2 hurt his heart and cheat on him what do i do bcuz he want leave me alone and i do know that sex shouldnt play such a big part in a relationship but what is a girl 2 do
2006-11-10 02:45:45 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well it seems like you both are open to communicate with each, why don't you tell him what you want. You don't have to boss him around, but guide him. This guy could be very eager to learn and he want to learn with you. You have a wonderful and pleasurable opportunity to explore both your sexual needs and curiosity together. Enjoy you time together and please always practice safe sex.
2006-11-10 02:51:30 · answer #1 · answered by rexy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a good relationship...you should be able to talk to him about this. There are other ways he can please you other than "the minute deal". Teach him what makes you feel good. My husband bought a book before I met him. I think it is called "how to pleasure a woman". If he reads that he will know everything there is to know about a womans body. Buy it for him off Amazon.
I know when I was around that age (22) I was spunky and my ex and I would make love more than once a night. The second time he would last a lot longer. So maybe set a night aside and make it special. It takes a woman a lot longer than it does a man. So the second time around try to get some good forplay in.
But just remember...you can't change a person. They have to want to change. You wouldn't want someone to change you. If you don't like what you have...even if it breaks your heart...move on.
2006-11-10 03:00:14 · answer #2 · answered by hard rock girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with him. Do you want to cheat? Kinda sounds like you do. Don't stoop to such a level. You are absolutely right, the sex should not be a part of such a decision. The physical act of having intercourse is only a teeny weeny piece of a relationship, there is so much more!!!! Contemplate on it and make a decision. Don't hold it off for too long.
2006-11-10 02:56:50 · answer #3 · answered by cold runner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems to be feeling very attached to you because you are his first. Many guys, including myself, have had this happen. If you really do care about him, talk to him about that you are not satisfied with the sex, and offer some suggestions for improvement. He sounds like a premature ejaculator, so extended foreplay might be an option. I personally love giving a woman oral sex, and I love hearing a woman scream when she orgasms. If you dont really care about him, then break up with him and make it a clean break.
2006-11-10 02:56:26 · answer #4 · answered by Brad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel.Right now I may need to break up with my bf but I dont know he would take it.Tell him how you feel and say that there is someone else out there and when your doing this look him straight inhis eyes and say it calmly.Next time,dont have sex first .You made the worst decision on that ,but you know you said that you dont want to cheat on him .SO does that mean there is another guy .Well if so dont have sex with that guy wait till your married with him and if you want to know if he loves you or not he will wait.Trust me .The last thing I can tell you is pray.Pray to GOD.
2006-11-10 02:53:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I remember, I was like that when I was just getting started on the ladies. I think he just has to grow out of it; it's a phase. When the novelty wears off, he'll be a sturdier stud. In the meantime, you can teach him how to do some other stuff that you like.
2006-11-10 02:51:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age difference is minimal so pay it no mind. You are only as old as you think you are. You have a young untrained model to play with so you will have to teach him to slow down and pace himself. The young have a tendancy to go off half ******; so to speak. Teach him to appreciate the roses.
2006-11-10 03:15:16 · answer #7 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
toys. ask him if he would like to use one on you?
that or the masterb***** word. I used to do this daily before bed. then the next day I would last for almost an hour before I could finish. If you are night people then have him m*** in the morning.
talk to him during the act. it will disrupt his thinking and lower the excitement.
good luck
2006-11-10 02:51:17 · answer #8 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have slept with hundreds of women and it isn't a big part of a relationship. Get used to a minute thing.
2006-11-10 02:48:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're 26?!?!?!? You sound like a 16 year old. Maybe it's good that's he's barely 21.
2006-11-10 02:49:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋