I was dating this guy for not even two months and he just dumped me. Am I just completely disgusting and drive guys away? He said we had nothing in common but he still wanted to hang out... why would he want to hang out with someone he has nothing in common with? Thats what makes me think that it was just because Im ugly :-( Dont be an asshole but let me know what I should do to get over it.
2006-11-10 02:35:45 · 24 answers · asked by Kaleigh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
one.......i am sure your not ugly since at one point he did want to date you
two....the only reason he wants to hang around with you is because he wants to keep you on the ropes in case something better doesnt come along and he always has someone to hang out with/get sexual with
To get over it.......
dont hang out with him. Move on. You can do better then some jerk like that. He obviously has no clue on life and is a "player" or a wanna be "player"....
just dont let him play you (which is what he is attempting to do)
2006-11-10 02:46:17 · answer #1 · answered by sapphirenplatinum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys say that about hanging out to lessen the blow. The best way to handle this is to just move on. Don't let him know you are upset. I'm sure you are not ugly, he wouldn't have wanted to go out with him to begin with if you were. The two months did he seem to like you? The best way to get over him is to just keep telling yourself that he wasnt for you. And to call him by a derogatory nickname which in turn make you think of him that way. It works really! Good luck. Don't be sad as my mother always says.."there are more fish in the sea". :)
2006-11-10 10:42:41 · answer #2 · answered by Jan G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went back and looked at your other questions to see what might bring you to this conclusion. By your own admission you say you hate people and are usually vulgar. Some people may find that attractive, but I sure wouldn't. As soon as I discovered those traits, no matter how physically beautiful you were, I would be out of there. My suggestion would be that you work on being a more loving and grace filled person. Perhaps then you will attract a different, better, kind of guy.
2006-11-10 10:48:20 · answer #3 · answered by hutmikttmuk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it a pattern that guys dump you after a few months and dont' tell you why or is this one incident? If it's just one time this happened, I wouldn't worry about it.
Still, I understand you do need to know what happened. Do you have any mutual friends? Perhaps you could ask one of them if they know anything.
It could be that you simply were not meant to be together and the "chemistry" wasn't there. Keep looking and don't give up!
2006-11-10 10:41:23 · answer #4 · answered by kristin c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things I want to remind you of :-
1. Beauty lies in the eyes of beholder
2. Beauty is just skin deep.
Conclusion:
1. Why do you think you are ugly, has anyone told you that?
2. Even if actually someone has, he doesn't deserve your friendship because he hasn't met the real you and he hasn't seen the real beauty that hides behind the skin -- in your heart.
2006-11-10 10:45:33 · answer #5 · answered by keyman_o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's his loss. You have to move on and not dwell on him and what he did to you. He probably wasn't ready to date but just wanted to be friends and his immaturity didn't allow him to state the obvious from the beginning of the relationship. You have to decide do you want to be friends with him or just cut him out of your life? All break ups take time, and that is what you will need. And no you're not ugly. His attitude is ugly.
2006-11-10 10:39:40 · answer #6 · answered by BabyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you think your know your ugly then there is nothing more to say.....
Do what other ugly chicks do, get pregnant from a guy with a great job and hit him up with child support for revenge for all the guys that dumped you
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2006-11-10 10:38:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
For starters, accept that it wasn't your fault for his decision. My past experience (I'm 36 and was a speed dater) has taught me that if a guy breaks-up without warning and uses the "lets be friends" b.s. it usually means that he is interested in another girl or his friends are giving him hell for dating you. Not to worry, there are plenty of guys out there. I'm sure that you will meet someone that will care and treat you right, one day. Just don't force it; when you stop looking for love, it will walk up and smack you in the face.
2006-11-10 10:48:30 · answer #8 · answered by LovelyAmy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your problem is u have low-selfesteem . no matter what one person thinks of u another may think different. maybe its because he can't handle a girl like u, because believe me if u were ugly he wouldn't even want 2 hang with u knowing that u 2 use to date. maybe its his own issues made him say he didn't want 2 go out anymore ...
2006-11-10 10:40:36 · answer #9 · answered by Kiwi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to give you details and tell him upfront to be brutally honest if that's what you want. Make it very clear that no matter what he thinks, you want to know.
Honestly though, sometimes there just isn't any chemistry there. You can be very attractive or not at all to two men standing next to each other. Its a chemical thing.
2006-11-10 10:38:45 · answer #10 · answered by Jon O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋