How can I ??????

Question

I'm ugly and have a really low self-esteem but I really want to work on improving it.(especially eye contact)
so how can I do that?

Answer 1

You have to study even at home. You should be updated with what is going on. If you are confident of what you know & who you are then it follows that you gain self esteem.
It is never too late to study in a course you are interested. It might be short courses only.

Answer 2

I can't say I understand what your dealing with 100% but I do have any idea..My 15 yr thinks she is the ugliest thing..She isn't by any means, and she too has a very low self esteem.. Stop looking at the outside of you,, Start looking at the inside and what you have to offer people around you.. Beauty is only skin deep and it fads after awhile. Sit down and write the positive things you like about yourself.. Look at the real negatives, and see if there is anyway that you can improve those negatives...My 18 yr is a beautiful girl and attracts guys of every type.. Funny is she always seems to pick the not so attractive guys cause they always seem to have the better of the personality's and know how to treat the girls right..Stop beating yourself up,, and let the real you out.....You owe yourself that much....Eye Contact..For vocal lessons I was taught to get in front of a mirror and practice my singing. This was to teach me to look at the audience when I was performing.. It took sometime but I eventually learned how to make the eye contact and really see the person. Try that.. Also remember the eyes are the pathway to the soul... You can really come to know a person by searching the eyes.... Good Luck and You are worth it!!!!!!

Answer 3

Who says you're ugly? For some women you would probably be gorgeous! That's the beauty of it!
Anyway, I was very shy as a child and never looked anyone in the eye. But I realized that people do judge you by how much eye contact you make. They think you are dishonest, when really you're just plain scared! Try looking between their eyes or just above that spot on their forehead. If they are a bit aways, then you can focus on a point on the wall behind them.
You sound like a great, caring, and sensitive person, so try doing what you enjoy to raise your self esteem, like sports or some other talent that you may have.
Again, I suggest counselling.

Answer 4

Well first of all your not ugly. You soul looks beautiful to me. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If people are not seeing you for who you are and just looking on the outside. Well then they are shallow. You shouldn't have low self-esteem because they have it themselves.

When you speak to someone make sure your making eye contact it is a thing that is not easy, but making eye contact an any conversion is important. It means you are paying attention to the conversation and to the person whom is speaking ot you

Eye contact and facial expressions provide important social and emotional information; people, perhaps without consciously doing so, probe each other's eyes and faces for positive or negative mood signs. In some contexts, the meeting of eyes arouses strong emotions.
In some parts of the world, particularly in East Asia [Korea, Japan, and China], eye contact can provoke major misunderstandings between people of different nationalities. Keeping direct eye contact with elderly people leads them to assume you are being aggressive and rude - the opposite reaction of most Americans or British, who assume that people avoiding eye contact are less trustworthy and less open. Hence, people from Asia may tend to shift their eyes during conversations much more than some

Answer 5

First of all stop seeing yourself as ugly. You're not ugly. Nothing that God ever made was ugly.

Second, realize that the same thoughts that haunt you, haunt everyone at least at one time or another. So what you're thinking, everyone has thought at some point before.

Third, start making a conscious effort at making eye contact no matter what you think might happen. What's the worst that could happen? Someone will make fun of you? You already feel low. So that shouldn't be a fear.

Realize that you're just as valuable as anyone else. But some people like to make others like you feel low, just to prop themselves up. Realize that that's what they're doing. Don't let them. You are just as valuable as they.

Answer 6

Just relax. Have you spoken with a counselor about your self esteem?

If you seek conversation with nice people, being unattractive should be the last thing on your mind. Try to get involved with a group of people with whom you share interests. Maybe a book club, chess club or even a spiritual group. An oral communication class can make a difference, too. I've seen very shy individuals come out of their shells through involvement in a club called Toastmasters. They work on speaking in front of people on designated topics. Eye contact and communication skills are a concentrated topic.

In the meantime, try not to focus on rejection too much. Just relax.

Answer 7

first thing quit calling yourself ugly and quit thinking it,you should see a psychiatrist or psychologist who can help improve your sense of self worth, eye contact is sometimes really hard, look at the person you are talking to and just look at a point just above their eyes and that will help until you can do it without being self concious,eye contact is a minor thing compared to the self esteem issue,get help for that and the rest will come along on its own good luck

Answer 8

Hey, nothing you try in an effort to 'improve yourself' will be of any value unless you learn to like yourself. All other efforts will seem like a new paint-job on an old vehicle if you can't address the issue of how you feel about yourself.

I also suffered self-esteem issues (and by the way I prefer to refer to my face as interesting or strong even, never am i ugly) until I became a Christian. I had to accept that Jesus would of done what he did... even just for me. May not be the answer for you but it helped me to understand that I AM of equal worth to any other person on the face of the earth.

My advice would be, accept yourself, understand there is potential in EVERYONE, and the rest (such as effective communication) will follow. Smile!

Answer 9

Well first of all...stop calling yourself ugly.
If you call yourself ugly then you are.
There are times you just have to force yourself to look at someone.
I was shy and not great to look at but I found myself forcing myself and pretty soon it was not forced.
I found someone to love and married now for 31 years just by forcing myself
you can do it too

Answer 10

find out your posatives and improve your feature take care of your health finaly have good soul to feel confidant of yourself.