Been having problems with my boyfriend, we have arguing alot about trust because he has given me some reasons to believe that he is cheating with a girl in one of his college classes. He calls her on the way to class, invites her to work out with his friends on the weekends, ims texts messages her all the time. She does have a boyfriend, but she always seems uncomfortable around me, my boyfriend says its because she think that I don't like her (go figure). I have been trying to distance myself because I don't like the idean of being cheated on. He has been acting distant and distracted won't spend time with me that much anymore because he says that he is carring a heavy course load. I am so mad at him because of all that has been going on with this situation.
He sent me a text message this morning saying "still thinking of you" and then another this afternoon. He finally called later that evening twice and I talked to him. I call the next morning NO ANSWER????
2006-11-10 02:05:59 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds to me like he is busy chasing another girl...
2006-11-10 02:07:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He has time to go out with his friends and this girl?
Then he has time for you, course load or not.
It's a load of something alright!
You know what's going on.
If you are not comfortable with the situation, it's for a reason. He should respect that. Since he didn't and he's behaving like a man caught with his pants down, then why bother?
Sometimes, things just aren't working out.
He sounds guilty. Of what, I'm not sure. Emotionally cheating can be just as harsh as the romp in the hay kind.
Tell him about it. Tell him how you feel.
Tell her about it. Tell her how you feel.
If it's meant to be, he'll straighten up and fly right (in your direction and away from her...permanently). If it's not meant to be, get a new man that respects you.
2006-11-10 02:19:00 · answer #2 · answered by soccermomw3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a heavy course load and you need to be a little more understanding. Guys CAN have female FRIENDS. Ask yourself why you don't trust him. Are you judging him from personal experience? Would you cheat on him, if you were in the same situation? Perhaps if you answer either of these questions with a YES then it is simply you. He is sending you intimate messages in spite of your obvious jealousy. The guy cares about you. Cut him some slack. Don't be mad at him, trust him and you will be much happier, too.
2006-11-10 02:14:23 · answer #3 · answered by HGS 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've got to be careful not to give him a reason to cheat...
It's perfectly okay to have another girl as a friend, you shouldn't feel threatened. If you keep acusing him, he just might act on it. Try being her friend too. If your boyfriend likes her she's probably got a lot in common with you. You're only being cheated on because she's taking time away from him that could be yours.
Right?
He's thinking of you and his school work and probably a lot of other stuff. Maybe he likes hanging with this other girl cause she doesn't put any type of pressure on him, like everything else going on his life.
Lighten up. You trusted him before, maybe you should trust him now...
Good luck! !
2006-11-10 02:17:41 · answer #4 · answered by Sweetea 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No Answer can mean a lot of things. It can be something as simple as the battery died. What went on in your twice executed conversation last night? Was it good or was it bad? You are reading into the no answer based on your interpretation of this other girl and your own insecurity about your relationship with this boy. If you are secure in yourself first, I would then ask him about the other girl. Tell him what you feel. If your relationship is strong then the conversation should provide results. The last thing you want to do is simply let your feelings fester.
2006-11-10 02:12:25 · answer #5 · answered by Charles 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why don't you two just sit down and talk about this honestly. Tell him that you feel jealous of this other girl and you need to know that he wants to be with you. If he does then work out something so that everyone's happy. If he just blows it off and says your crazy or that you're blowing it out of proportion, then you should dump him because he's being insensitive and is probably cheating.
honesty and communication: two very important things when being involved in a relationship.
think about it
good luck
2006-11-10 02:11:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What's interesting to me is that he's told you all about her. doesn't lie about it and you have even met her. If he was cheating behind your back I don't think he would have been so open to you about her. If you aren't comfortable with the situation, move on. If he's worth staying for talk it out and tell him why you feel so uncomfortable with the situation. If he cares about you he'll change his behaviour.
2006-11-10 02:15:41 · answer #7 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is straight BS. I be da mn if my man is hanging, calling, txting, and going to the gym with another girl. Girl wake up....you tell him if he wants it to work out with you two then its you or her?? See what he says. It sounds likely that he maybe cheating on you. Or you should ask him if it would bother him if you were hanging out with a new guy??? Life is too freaking short. Lose him and find someone else. Your boyfriend should spend his free time with you...not another girl..regardless if she has a boyfriend.
2006-11-10 02:10:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You already know the answer! Even if he isn't cheating on you , you have reason to not trust him. The whole situation seems a little strange to me.
I think it may be time for you to move on to better things! Good luck to you!
2006-11-10 02:09:12 · answer #9 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if it smells like a camel and it looks like a camel it's most likely a camel. get a new boyfriend, do you see the first half of the word (boy)? get yourself a (man)friend. have a friend send you a message in his presents and be secretive. give him his own medicine. if you can't do this send me $70 bucks for the free information.some girls can't seem to put it all together. if you argue now, what do you think you will be doing in the future?
2006-11-10 02:28:38 · answer #10 · answered by whodad 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I caution automatically thinking that I guy is cheating w/o stone cold proof. You can either flip on your man and tell him that he can't talk to her anymore (good luck with that one) or get to know her better. (tough it up and try not to throw punches) BUT, considering that the trust is already ruptured and you're going to feel that way regardless of what he does... consider upgrading to a guy that's not going to make you feel that way.....
2006-11-10 02:10:26 · answer #11 · answered by rachael 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋