My girl friends lets her 13 year daughter sleep with her every night unless if I was to stay the night and then the daughter will stay up all night and walk around the house . They both know it isn't right but they keep on doing it even my counselor has said it was wrong and hers say it was wrong but she just don't stop it really bothers me and worry me too We are engaged to be married in May what is the answer to this. One other thing she was brought up the sameway with her mother and she isn't like some low life women she is an IT for a big company.
2006-11-10 02:05:19 · 10 answers · asked by isitreal1963 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Children that age need to sleep alone, in their own room. What bothers me is that the daughter was walking around the house all night when you were over, because it means that she is so dependent on her mother she is unable to sleep in her own room.
Did the counselor ever suggest how they could get the daughter to be able to sleep in her own room? She must be really anxious if she can not sleep apart from her mom.
To me it sounds like the whole task of getting the child to sleep in her own room just got put off too long. And maybe the mother is afraid of letting her child go and has guilt over it whenever the child gets anxious or upset.
try to resolve it as quickly as you can. maybe you can go as a family to therapy?
2006-11-10 02:50:01 · answer #1 · answered by kristin c 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your husband was once a 15 year old boy with 15 year old boy hormones. He may be speaking from experience when he says it's inappropriate. Your daughter may not plan or think anything is going to happen, but she wouldn't be the first girl to be led astray this way. You're going to need to decide who you love and trust more. Either support your husband and enforce his decision, or trust your daughter and allow her to have her friend stay over. Personally, I'd probably allow it, but set some ground rules: the doors must stay open for instance. And as you say, sister next door is going to taddle on anything anyway!
2016-05-22 02:38:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with her sleeping with her daughter when you aren't there. My girls sleep with me whenever my husband is out of town. But her Mom needs to have a talk with her about staying in her own room all night when you are there. She needs to learn to respect your privacy, and she's old enough for "the talk" to learn why.
2006-11-10 02:14:47 · answer #3 · answered by KayGeeTX 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just talk to them both. Explain the problem and what you think should happen. Try not to be unreasonable and make sure you STAY CALM! Don't try and explain something and then get angry and start ranting and raving if they don't understand. Make sure you tell them exactly how you feel about it. Try and reason with them. Maybe you could talk to the girl and ask her whether she has problems sleeping and try and solve them for her. You could also ask her if any of her friends sleep with their mum, and try and get her to see that it's not right. Hope it all works out for you. ^_^
2006-11-10 02:13:17 · answer #4 · answered by Spamoid 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's time to have a big, sit down talk, bro.
You mean they sleep together?
DId something happen that the teenager needed to sleep with her mom?
Engaged to be married... when
Before you get marred you all should go to family councling and COUNCIL each other.
Oh, and when you get married, you as the dad can set some ground rules.
I'd like to know where the girls fathr is in al this ^_^
2006-11-10 02:09:57 · answer #5 · answered by I think... 6 · 0⤊ 5⤋
you have to tell her that, a 13 yr old girl is old enough to sleep on her own, she needs to learn to grow up and be independent.
2006-11-10 02:09:46 · answer #6 · answered by superboredom 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
So what if she lets her sleep in the bed with her, you sound mad and for what reason I don't know getover it buddy.
2006-11-10 03:00:14 · answer #7 · answered by This is just my opinion! 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell her it sleeping with the daughter or you,then leave give her something to think about......................
2006-11-10 02:23:11 · answer #8 · answered by tysgrandma99 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well it's bizarre but possible
2006-11-10 02:41:12 · answer #9 · answered by supernolwen 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
why is it a problem?
2006-11-10 02:20:25 · answer #10 · answered by skyfallingchickenlittle37 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋