i've had 3 serious relationships in my life and in all 3 after or during the 6 year mark i've cheated or falling for someone else......how do i break this pattern........i truly believe i am the happist when i'm dating 2 people at the same time....it's exciting and challenging all at the same time and usually what one is lacking the other has......how do i change this pattern......
2006-11-10 02:03:16 · 15 answers · asked by non-curious 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
fight against that urge for another man when you are aleady in one relationship.resist it strongly.keep talking yourself out of it.if you believe in prayer,then commit it to god.
2006-11-10 02:12:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow....so if all those were all at least 6 years...you have been in relationships that were more than likely meaningless to you, it for almost 18 years of your life....wow. Don't you think you're ready to be with one person, or find that one that pleases you in all ways. Think about how theses guys feel after being with you for so long. The only person that can change this pattern is you and you alone. You are the only one that can know when you are ready to only be with one person. I'm not sure how old you are, but I'm sure you are getting to that age where you'll be wanting to find your life partner...
2006-11-10 10:09:40 · answer #2 · answered by Jenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh dear, you'll just have to do it. most of us think we'll get more excitement out of dating 2 people, having the double sex life (and exciting) and living through two faces.
but don't you just want to show the maturity that you can have a one person, stable relationship? wouldn't you rather show a partner, a one love that you are a team and it's only them? it's just a personal thing. DAmn, I'd love to have 6 lovers and girlfriends, but really, that would just be too tiring. A good healthy partnership comes through trust, security, and honesty.
Just do it. Or don't. I don't care...wait yes, i do...cause what if you're my girlfriend and I only THINK that she's at school right now...? why you little....!!!
2006-11-10 10:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by B.B Top 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip! Just find the right man and you won't want to cheat - you've obviously not found him yet but it doesn't sound like you are going about finding him the best way. Calm down and hopefully you'll be able to break out of your old habit.
2006-11-10 10:05:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know how u can change this pattern but i know u will change when u find the right person. Anyway try stoppin it by urself cuz I'm sure it hurts the guys u dated it may even cause problems 4 u
eg u meet i guy u really like and he also likes u likes u and he gets 2 know dat,dat was how u used 2 behave he may just think dat u're doin the same thing wit him.
2006-11-10 11:08:37 · answer #5 · answered by Debbie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Start having some self-control. It's childish to believe that you can have your cake and eat it, too. Be single for a few years, surround yourself with platonic friends. Then, slowly get back into the dating scene. If you can't stick to one partner, don't commit. It's that simple.
2006-11-10 10:09:05 · answer #6 · answered by Kimberly H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to be honest with yourself and others. There are plenty of people out there that are in open relationships. Just make sure that you don't bring it to the point where someone really loves you because when you cheat, it really does hurt us guys. Don't cheat, just be honest about your sexuality and hunger for attention.
2006-11-10 10:08:05 · answer #7 · answered by kantosiuk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your wright that's why i don't look at it like its cheating,i mean if you look at it if you don't have two at the same time then that means what ever one is missing your not getting so if it is cheating your cheating your self out of true satisfaction and true happiness.that's why i like dealing with women that have a boyfriend.don't change your ways i don't think nobody is faithful i believe those who say they never did it just didn't meet the person they would want to creep around with yet.
2006-11-10 10:14:31 · answer #8 · answered by equality 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Is the bio clock ticking? If not, don't worry about it yet. Stay single and just be honest. Date all the guys you want. It will change when the time is right for you.
2006-11-10 10:07:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? Grow up!! stick to 1 man!! i mean if you are like a kid yea. i use to do that all the time but im pretty sure your not! I think its time for you to get serious about relationships!
2006-11-10 10:31:53 · answer #10 · answered by chris'sbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess u dont have a clue how it feel to be cheated on right or u woulnt do some like that to ur man
2006-11-10 10:19:01 · answer #11 · answered by Tiny T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋