I have never had what most people would see as a real relationship, I tend not to hang around long and keep things really casual. How do you know when you are ready to have a proper relationship?
2006-11-10 02:02:58 · 8 answers · asked by Maverick off Top Gun 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ASK YOURSELF:
Why would this person want to be with you? How considerate, independent, funny and interesting are you? Relationships of all kinds are the classrooms in which we learn all about life. The possibility of being hooked at the deepest level makes love relationships so taxing. Women often look to a man to complete them, particularly financially. But, the truth is that you need to have a deep relationship with yourself. Then, you can have one with others.
BE AWARE OF SELF:
Self-awareness includes recognising what pushes your buttons, and how you react in certain situations. It's important to learn to be a wife, a lover, a sister or a friend from your family of origin. The perception we have of these roles and the ways we reach out are programmed from birth. So, recalling your family's style of communication will give you an insight into your own way of operating.
GET OVER PAST RELATIONSHIPS:
This is crucial before embarking into a new relationship. Question where you are emotionally with regards to your previous relationships? If you dont do this, it does not matter who you choose, you will simply project everything you associated with the last man, on to the new one.
TAKE RESPONSIBILTY FOR YOUR CHOICES:
At the end of a relationship, you will go through a predictable sequence of emotions: denial, anger and then blame, which is where a lot of people get stuck. As long as you hold someone else accountable, you can't let go of the relationship. You need to take responsibility for your choices and stop pointing fingers. You may move into a state of depression where you mourn the loss of connection, but when you realise that the relationship has been an oppurtunity to learn, you finally reach acceptance.
LEARN FROM THE PAST:
Relationships of all kinds are the classrooms in which we learn all about life....... the truth is that you need to learn from past mistakes and take care not to repeat them. That is when you are ready to move on.
2006-11-10 02:12:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You’re ready to have a relationship when you’re ready to be unselfish, when you’re ready to explore the other person’s interest instead of your own, when you can trust that person and you feel comfortable with that person. When you’re prepared to be vulnerable by being yourself. You’re ready for a relationship when you’ve let go of all the baggage from past friendships and when you can except their past present and support their future. Your ready for a relationship when you can except your own faults and theirs, and most of all your ready for a relationship when you love yourself because if you don’t like you, who will? And how can you work on building something with someone when you haven’t worked on accepting you. Relationships are trial and era, if you don’t try you won’t grow! Good Luck:)
2006-11-10 02:18:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are ready to be with one person and have a partner in your life to share your life with. When you are tired of the dating scene and feel like you want one special person to share things with. You must also be ready to make a commitment, do the work through the good and bad times. be willing to open up and communicate and of course be willing to compromise in certain situations. When you meet the right person this will be easy for you to do.
2006-11-10 02:09:08 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one can really tell if you are ready for a relationship but yourself. there are some things that you must see in yourself that could probably tell that you are ready to dive into the wacky world of romance. one thing is if you are happy with yourself, your life in general, you are happy with who and what you are without depending on other people's approval. another is, being able to relate and empathize with other people, not because you have to but just because you can. next is being able to be selfless and responsible enough to commit to a relationship and compromise when needed. if yes to all of this, then you are ready to share yourself to another individual and be one with him/her. other factors vary, some get into relationships just for the heck of it, but asked all the questions above and their answer is no. well, to each his/her own. what matters is if you are happy and you're minding your own business then, that's fine.
2006-11-10 02:09:32 · answer #4 · answered by Acidburn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It way simply what he says. He's no longer equipped for a dating. He does not wish to harm you and so that's why he says he "rather likes you" to tender matters over it. Move on, sister. He does not appear valued at some time.
2016-09-01 10:21:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, i can write a veery long thing for you as a starting psychologist.but i'll just tell you one human thing. first, you have to open ur heart to the ur bf/gf. then if u're really in love, things will go in their own way
best wishes)
2006-11-10 02:15:58 · answer #6 · answered by Kanade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u ready to sacrifice
2006-11-10 02:10:01 · answer #7 · answered by Muhammad R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes a while...u have to really know the person and spend time with them....you have to be into them from the first time you saw them....it just has to click....there really is no way to say when it will happen just be patient and it will come.....
Best of luck buddy
2006-11-10 02:08:27 · answer #8 · answered by my name is jimmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋