i just kicked my live in boyfriend out. he was still talking to an ex even after me asking a month ago for him to stop. then the said he was with his buddy the other night and he wasnt. i dont know if he physically cheated, but i cant live with the sick stomach wondering. so i asked him to move out. He hasnt stopped calling me, all day all night just for stupid reasons....
im so confused. our relationship is great, sex, fun, laughing everything, then why does he need this extra stuff???
2006-11-10 01:44:10 · 28 answers · asked by coco 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
but, what is a man lacking that he has to still get this attnetion from other women and they are all women that he cant be with. talking on the phone to married women with problems. how can someone cheat and then be so wonderful with everything else, This is a guy that was with me everynight... never in bars or clubs... now that ive asked him to leave, why is he going crazy callingme... shouldnt he be calling the others now that hes free?? or is this more exciting for him right now??
2006-11-10 02:03:23 · update #1
if he's a cheater nothing will change him
leave him
2006-11-10 02:16:34 · answer #1 · answered by Some 1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good move on kicking him out. No one should be played like that.
Some say a guy can change when and if he's found the one. My boyfriend says they don't, a cheater can't change. He says they'll be good for awhile and then have that 4 month or 6 month or 7th year "itch", which is probably why despite the great sex and fun and laughter, he still cheated. I think the best way to deal with this is don't date a guy with a continous cheating background AT ALL. Better safe than sorry and risk a heartache!
2006-11-10 09:54:18 · answer #2 · answered by stormsandblues 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are really sure that he was in fact cheating, then what you have done is the best thing for you, but if there is any doubt at all and you may have misconstrued his actions, you may be sorry later. You are saying that your relationship was great, why didn't you try building on the good things instead of dwelling on doubts. People like to have other friends and still maintain great relationships. Nothing is wrong with that. If you expect a person to stop interacting with other people simply because they are involved with you, that is completely selfish. Perhaps you should have tried to get to know his friends better and maybe you could have interacted with them too. Doubts and jealousy destroy relationships. Being interactive and understanding makes relationships last a great deal longer.
2006-11-10 09:53:13 · answer #3 · answered by HGS 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't go back to him. There must have been some reason as to why he cheated on you, but if a man cheats, that just shows how much he really cares for you: he doesn't. But I have a theory: Once you make a mistake in your life, it haunts your past and your present, unless you face it and realize why you did it, forgive yourself, and move on, knowing you won't ever make the same mistske twice. If he's any kind of human being, maybe in the distant future he'll go through that and move on himself. But it's safe to say the trust is gone and you both need space right now. Good luck.
2006-11-10 09:51:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds really familiar. Some men just need to have extra-curricular activities outside the relationship. The relationship is not great if you are having a sick stomach. My ex needs alot of extra female attention to be satisfied no matter how much he enjoyed being in relationship with me. He is a sex addict which is a disease.Since this is not alright with me, I let him go and today, after several years, he is one of my best friends because of the good connection we have which doesn't include being in a romantic relationship.
2006-11-10 09:49:59 · answer #5 · answered by Rita T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are just like this. Relationships are based on trust. Once that is breached, it takes time and a proven track record to change the feelings. If he has been a cheater most of his life, he will probably stay a cheater...why would you want him? Don't kid yourself, your relationship is not great...the foundation is not there...So think about it...what happens to a building with no foundation?
2006-11-10 09:50:38 · answer #6 · answered by rcpaden 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A cheater cheats because of some personal compulsion...it usually has nothing to do with the relationship he is in! Don't blame yourself! He is an idiotic loser who is going to be picking up chicks at the bar when he's 65. In other words, good riddance!!!!
2006-11-10 10:01:58 · answer #7 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If was still talking to an ex-there is good reason that is not the only thing that has happened. No matter what-the trust has been broken and I don't think you have much to go on--so you need to stop taking his calls and start the healing process.
2006-11-10 09:46:52 · answer #8 · answered by blonde_bitch_norris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do think it's possible for anyone to change if they want to and are willing to work at it but this guy doesn't sound like he's willing to change. He's still doing the same thing after you asking him not to. Even making him leave doesn't seem to have hit home with him. I think you're better off to start over with someone who isn't a player.
2006-11-10 09:54:52 · answer #9 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure everything is great between you both...but....the fact he was still talking to his EX and he may even saw her. I wouldn't take that chance. I would leave him completely alone. Once a cheater always a cheater. It's a pattern that is hard to get out of. Why is he talking to his EX when he's with you????
2006-11-10 09:48:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater is a very true statement. If you do not trust him then there is absolutely no point in being with him. HE WILL NOT CHANGE! He may tell you that he will change to get you to take him back in but don't do it. You deserve better.
2006-11-10 09:54:19 · answer #11 · answered by KokoCutie272006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋