I am going out tonight after losing wife to breast cancer. I'm in my late 30s, how do I attract women again

Answer 1

First, I am very sorry you have lost your wife to illness. Second, if you are going to find some happiness again, you need to take it slowly. The biggest no-no is that once you've told your date (if it comes up) that your wife has died, do not dwell on it or talk about her continually to your date. The date will be sympathetic at first, but nobody wants to walk in the shadow of someone you still love in your heart. So, don't continually talk about your wife. Instead, talk about your hobbies, work, future desires, and ask a lot of questions about your date's ideas and concerns. Be yourself, but be your happy self, not the self that is still hurting inside.

Answer 2

It depends on how long you were married. Reason is, if you were married for a long time and out of the dating game for awhile you, like me after losing my husband i found that dating is not the same.It seems that a lot of people are back to the 70's and free love. If this is your bag fine. I wanted something a little more stable in my life. I did not want to go to bars, of course i am a woman and women have to be careful, so do men for that matter but, i did join some private clubs and did not find it there. I then went on Yahoo Personals. It was hard to find someone in my hometown but, i did. We have now been dating for 5 months. Good luck

Answer 3

About 3 years after my husband died, I started going out with my friends again. My friends said I carried a look on my face that said, "I'm a widow." And more than likely, it's because I missed him, and I was out of practice on "how" to relax & have a nice time. So I can only advise that you try to "emotionally" leave your late wife in your "good memory bank" and just be who you are.
If you like the music that's playing, ask someone to dance, if you get into a conversation with a lady, don't feel bad about it, and
if you end up giving your phone # to a lady, just remember your late wife would "want" you to move forward, okay? I know you feel kind of "odd" about the whole thing, and yet you want to go out too. It's okay, have a nice time, you deserve it. My husband also died of cancer at the age of 44, and although I still miss him, he told me before he died, "not" to stand still in time, and to be my happy self. So I did, and I am. A couple of years after I started dating, I met another wonderful man, and we are now married!
I didn't mean to go on and on about "me," but I wanted you to know just be who you are, and relax. A little "hint?" Sometimes the less you "try" to attract, the "more" you attract, okay? Good luck.

Answer 4

i'm sorry to her that but I am glad you are getting in with your life again. Just go out there and try to have a good time. that is reay the key to letting yourself be noticed. Have fun, be relaxed and just enjoy the night, dont think about anything, take in whatis happening around you first andif you wan tto get up and talk to someone then go if you dont...no big deal maybe next time.

Answer 5

Maybe u should just hang out with the boys for ah while, i'm sure ur still hurting from the loss of ur wife and u'll compare any woman u meet to her and that won't be fair.

Answer 6

Just be yourself. I'm sure that you'll get a thousand answers of people telling you that, but it's true. Don't act "macho", don't use any "one-liners", just walk up to a woman & say..."Hi, how are you doing tonight"?? Or something like that. Just act normal. Try & act like you would if you were going up to say hi to an acquaintance or a friend. I'm in my 30's (w/ a child) & am dating again....I'm recently divorced. It can happen for you too!!!

Answer 7

well that's fuc*ed up man... well if you are ready to date again just do like you did with your wife...but don't speak too much about her to all your dates...it usually scares them off...some women are turned on by that but most of them aren't so choose your words carefully.

Answer 8

First off, get a vasectomy then bring your condoms and be prepared for a lot of horny manish women

Answer 9

Just get out there, introduce yourself and mingle..
most importantly, be yourself..be genuine..and show your sense of humor..

I wish you the best...

Answer 10

Same as you did before. You are still young.