My son is 10 yo and i caught him touching himself on many ocassions. I suspect that he could be masturbating. Is this normal for a 10+yo.
I need serious answers only.
2006-11-10 01:10:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Yes. We are all sexual beings. We are born that way and sexuality is NOT a bad thing, at all. It's society, church, conservative folks that make us think it's bad or abnormal.
I have 2 little ones myself. Just tell him that it's okay to experiment with his body but there is time and a place for that. You appreciate it if it does it only in his room when no one else is around.
That's what we tell our kids and they don't seem to have any problems. We WANT them to release their sexual energy in a socially appropriate way - not become stressed-out about it and become rapists or porno stars or something! :-)
2006-11-10 01:15:25 · answer #1 · answered by Falina T. Rayon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a doctor either, but I'm betting you aren't going to get alot of those online at this time of the morning.
I am a mom, and I agree with the other answerer. Touching your body is simply experimentation and even if it leads to masturbation, so what? That's normal.
I think the hardest thing about having kids is when they move through puberty. Your baby isn't your baby any more physically but they are in a way more dependent than when they were 2. How you approach their budding sexuality and concerns about their bodies and the feelings they will have, will effect them all their lives.
At ten you should have already been talking about body functions and some general sexuality issues. He may be ready for "the talk", and you might be more comfortable having his father talk to him. If there isn't a father around, then its up to you to do a good job, so educate yourself, there are great books out there.
Even if you don't do it now (and you should because they are already talking about sex with their friends), you need to realize that what your son is doing is normal and you should give him privacy and not make a big deal out of it.
Good luck to you.
2006-11-10 09:23:26 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not a doctor, but I know from experience that it is normal. At least in my case it is. I would masturbate as young as I can remember. Before I even knew what an orgasm was, I was masturbating. I just learned my body from a very young age and I discovered that I could make myself feel good. Just tell him that it's a private thing and you do it when you are all alone.
2006-11-10 17:35:14 · answer #3 · answered by amyvnsn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a professional, but I knew of kids having sex at primary school in 1983. Considering society has moved on significantly since then, and the proliferation of sexuality through kids day to day activities, I would consider it perfectly normal.
The only time to become conecerned is if this activity starts interfering with their day to day interaction with the rest of the world. If they prefer to do this then play with their friends, or their school work drops etc. It is a normal part of growing up, but keep an eye out for any changes in other behaviour.
Above all, DO NOT embarress or shame the boy. Leave him to his "nocturnal activities" and if it ever comes into conversation, gently allude to the fact that it is perfectly natural and healthy.
2006-11-10 09:21:12 · answer #4 · answered by CPT Kremin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi I'm not a doctor or nurse but I do have a little one that plays with himself now (he's 2). They're just curious about their bodies and are exploring, my doctor told me that it was perfectly normal until they start obsessively doing it. He's probably had felt sensations from it and is experimenting with it. Don't chastise him and make him feel like he's doing something wrong, that'll only confuse him and may effect him later on in life. Good luck to you!
2006-11-10 09:22:42 · answer #5 · answered by acehernandez2006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, as I am not a doctor nor a psychiatrists yes it is normal for a child at this age to be exploring. You need to explain to him the proper place to do the "exploring" and just be there for him. Puberty can start as early as 9 years old. And if you only wanted doctors / psychiatrists to answer, then why aren't you at one of their offices instead of on Yahoo Answers?
2006-11-10 16:45:46 · answer #6 · answered by Mom to Foster Children 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, This is perfectly normal bahavior for a young boy. Now is the time to talk about it in a nonjudgmental way. Tell him it is ok to do this, but only in private, in his room and that this isn't something you talk to your friends about, thats' their mom's job.Rn.
2006-11-10 09:15:28 · answer #7 · answered by rosemary H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am no doctor, but yea it is common, do not punish him for it , it is a natural thing.
2006-11-10 09:13:34 · answer #8 · answered by soon2b mommy of 4 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋