my daughter 13 was with her boy friend having anal sex when i walked in.
when i confronted her she said at least i wont get preg.
what do i say or do
2006-11-10 01:03:17 · 15 answers · asked by seeme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
All you can do is make sure she takes the right precautions so she won't get pregnant. Let her know the pros and cons of sex. You need to be very open about this with her. No, we don't condone it but we can't stop anyone from having sex. At her age sex should have been the last thing on her mind. The most you can do is just talk to her. The rest is up to her.
2006-11-10 01:09:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would sit your daughter down and ask her if she thinks she is really ready for sexual activity? and why does she think she is ready? Show her that you care. I would sud just that you not yell at her b/c that would turn her away. I would explain to her about the diseases that she could get. Express to her that sex should be shared between two people that love each other not just for a game or just b/c she thinks it's cool and to brag about it. A lot of teens are pressured into having sex at this age. Tell her how you feel. Even though you really can't make her stop you may even have to get her on to birth control or talk to her about it. I hope you can reach out to her before she makes a mistake: a baby having a baby!
good luck you will do fine
2006-11-10 18:31:38 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're a Christian you tell her what the Bible says and keep a closer eye on her. If you're not, give her protection and tell her the consequences of pregnancy and sex. Make sure she knows all the STDs she can catch from having sex. Let her know how unproductive it will be to have a baby at her age.Tell her all the activities she will miss.(Prom,maybe graduation if she can't handle a baby and school) Let her know how much her future is worth. Also let her know that you will be the hell out of her if you catch her again and let her know how much you love her.
2006-11-10 12:53:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man I am sorry that you have to face that at such an early age
As a young society growing up they have gone in the wrong direction.
First off when you talk to her talk about your feelings don't point the finger at her and blame her.
She has alot of peir pressure and it time that you stand up as a father and take responsibility for your lack of education to her about this kind of behavior.
I know it's tuff I have 3 girls 23, 20 and 16 good luck
2006-11-10 09:11:48 · answer #4 · answered by mmmkay_us 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Young People Ask . . .
What’s Wrong With Premarital Sex?
So if two unmarried people engage in oral sex or in fondling each others’ reproductive organs, they are guilty of fornication.
However, premarital sex is nothing more than the “temporary enjoyment of sin.” (Hebrews 11:25) It can cause lasting physical, emotional, and spiritual harm.
Serious Threats
For example, each year millions of youths contract a sexually transmitted disease (STD).Over half of all new HIV infections worldwide (6,000 a day) occur among those who are between 15 and 24 years of age.
Females are particularly vulnerable to a host of problems related to premarital sex. In fact, the threat of STDs (as well as HIV) is higher for females than for males. Sexual relations are a gift from God, a gift that is to be enjoyed at the appropriate time—when one is married.
For your daughter to say she will not get pregnant is the least bit worry. She's 13 and doesn't even know what she's getting herself into. Maybe you can share my thoughts and Gods with her.
2006-11-10 09:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You say she is too young to have any type of sex. That she should value herself more than to give her body to just anyone. That anal sex can hurt her physically as well as expose her to sexually transmitted disease. You need to be the parent and talk to her about why she is having sex already, anal or other.
2006-11-10 09:09:59 · answer #6 · answered by Rita T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, there is still the chance of getting diseases. there is also the long-term problem later on that she can have with rectal hemorrhoids. And it is just plain ewwwww. Who wants to have normal sex when it has been there??? You tell me. AND 13?????????????? I would not leave her unsupervised with any b/f if she could not be trusted. Kids need to learn to respect their bodies...It is such a precious thing that was created for that special moment....not those sleezy, nasty, lust sessions.
2006-11-10 09:09:30 · answer #7 · answered by chocoholic_40 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's the most shocking story that I've seen. I don't have experiences about that and I hope won't have it. But if I was in your position, may be I will slap on her face and force her to take my rule in my house, and tell her boyfriend to keep away from my girl forever. It's too dangerous, embarrassed and unacceptable. May be it will hurt and she will hate me a lot, but it's for her future and her safety.
I hope other suggestions are better from mine. Please compare and take the best for you. Take care.
2006-11-10 09:31:37 · answer #8 · answered by eddy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her that if she continues this she will have major health/colon problems when she gets older. Ask her what she thinks about wearing a bag to go to the bathroom. Put that thought in her head.
2006-11-10 09:09:31 · answer #9 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At this age teens think that they r mature and whatever they r doing is right.but its duty of parents to talk them in personal for sometime without having hesitation over this topic.so they can treat you as their frnds.so without scolding her just have a little talk with her and tell her negatives and positives over it.because she is just 13.and you can have talk at this age only after sometime she will not going to tell any personal things to u.
2006-11-10 09:11:35 · answer #10 · answered by pari 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋