thanks to everyone who has answered my ? about my 4 year old daughter. alot of u said she might be acting this way with the new baby on the way, i should of specified that she was acting this way long before i was pregnant. its always been a problem. so with that in mind, does anyone have any-more advice?
2006-11-10 00:58:14 · 3 answers · asked by greengrass 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
If its always been a problem then you are behind in gaining control lol..
I found when my oldest 2 were younger that sometimes it was just easier to give in than to follow through. Boy did I pay for that! I finally found my backbone and things have been better over the last few years.
You have to set up your ground rules and follow through with threats...
For example if you say if you throw that toy I am going to put it in the garbage..Then make sure they see you put it in the garbage (you can always take it out when they are not around).
I am a big threat giver with bedtimes... LOL i will tell my 3 yr old if he doesnt start behaving than he will be going to bed.. Well needless to say the other night he was in bed at 6:15... But the next morning when I got him up he says "i wasn't listening and you put me to bed" I said yes are you going to listen today? he said "yes".
If they know that you will follow through then they will think twice when they next hear the threat..
When one of my daughters would throw themselves down on the floor I would just look at them and walk away. They usually get bored of doing things like that when they don't get a reaction.
If you react to those types of ploys then they win. Even if its a negative reaction. She is pushing buttons and knows that she will get some kind of reaction eventually.
If all else fails.. talk to your pediatrician.. You have to gain control now or once she starts school you will really have your hands full with the school.
Counseling is not a bad option. Sometimes a good counselor will help you help her. She will be able to learn better ways of dealing with her anger.
I wish you the Best of Luck!
2006-11-10 02:36:38 · answer #1 · answered by mommy of 4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would read up on it. Children react differently to different methods of discipline. Here are a couple sites and a book that might help you. I wish you good luck--I know first hand how frustrating and exaughsting it is to raise a child who acts this way!
2006-11-10 09:05:35 · answer #2 · answered by ANGEL 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk someone good luck
2006-11-10 09:06:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋