But he sent my dad to prison because my dad had problem conflicts with my brother and hurt him. My dad even broke out of prison and kidnapped him, giving him life sentance! I love my dad to death even throug all this. My brother can't live with my mother and I because he can't get along with my mother either - which is mainly my mother's fault.
He lives with my gandmother now... but I still miss my dad....am I wrong to miss my dad when he caused so much pain on my brother's life that wasn't my brother's fault?
2006-11-10 00:54:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my father went to jail after assulting my brother three times when my brother was 16
2006-11-10 00:59:10 · update #1
Your brother was the one wronged not you. Look at what you wrote...abuse, kidnapping. Your father put himself in prison because of what he had done to the family. Your brother was used by a person that was suppose to love him. Your mother is just as bad and to top it all off, you...you are just as bad as your parents when it comes to abuse of your brother. You blame him for eveything that went wrong when it was the parents that did it. Look at daddy and daddy dearest and put the blame on them not him.
I think you and he both need help. You need to get help to get over the mess your parents have slapped you with. Get help or you will end up like them.
Remember your parents did it to the family not brother.
2006-11-10 01:19:34 · answer #1 · answered by spider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love your father because he is your father. If your brother has problems with both your parents, then the issues are pretty big. Hate is a very big word and it is wrong to hate. You don't hate your brother you are simply hurt by the fact that his conflict with your dad has taken your dad from you. There must have been more to the situation between your father and your brother then you know. Some people just simply can't get along. They may forgive each other some day. You can only hope, but loving your dad is not wrong. Hating your brother, however, is. You don't need to like him, but don't hate him he is your brother after all.
2006-11-10 01:25:17 · answer #2 · answered by HGS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your age or the age of your brother so this question is a little hard to answer. No, I do not feel that it is wrong to love your father, in spite of his wrong actions as long as you realize that he made the decisions to do what he has done and that only he can and should be held responsible for those actions. Having said that, I do not feel that you should hate your brother who from the information you provided, was just a victim of your father's behavior. Your brother probably needs your love and support now more than ever. Please try to put yourself in his place and imagine how you would feel if he were to resent you for trying to protect yourself from someone who was hurting you. I hope that things work out for you and your family but it sounds like your father needs a lot of help and your brother needs a lot of emotional support and love. My best wishes to all of you.
2006-11-10 01:16:31 · answer #3 · answered by memphismomma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously your father did something that put him in prison and a judge and/or jury made the decision to send him to prison. Why blame your brother?
Hopefully your brother does not have the same tendencies inherited from your father or someone else in your family might get hurt .
Good luck and be safe .
2006-11-10 00:58:50 · answer #4 · answered by Dfirefox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-29 00:02:28 · answer #5 · answered by korniyenko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you don't like what happened, they're both still your family. Even if you love him, your dad broke the law, and that's not your brother's fault. He was the one who was kidnapped and hurt--don't blame him! If anything, he needs support, too. How would you feel if your own father kidnapped you and caused you pain, and then your family, that you've always relied on, turns their back on you because of it?
2006-11-10 01:00:38 · answer #6 · answered by cross-stitch kelly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to explain a little more. What did your dad do to your brother? Why did your Dad go to jail?
Know matter what your father will always be your father so love him now because he won't always be there for you.
2006-11-10 00:56:16 · answer #7 · answered by Happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother is not at fault. Love him like a good sister. You can love your father too there is no harm and this is natural in blood relationship.
2006-11-10 00:57:58 · answer #8 · answered by sandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about ur father mother brother and find a new life r ur parents divorced if then it is not u fault they have 2 solve their own problems
2006-11-10 01:08:59 · answer #9 · answered by yamnona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I mean he did do that, but still he's your dad. Love em both! I hope this helps.
2006-11-10 01:06:27 · answer #10 · answered by Southernchick21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋